Children are a true blessing from the Lord, and bring so much joy to your lives. But, the process by which they come into the world is nothing short of God’s grace and mercy. The journey of pregnancy is different for every expecting mom; and having the support of family and friends means the world to them. We learned so much during our first pregnancy that our second one has gone by so quickly with the amount of fun we’ve been having. One thing I learned in particular was the words my wife needs to hear in order to reassure her during the journey of bringing a tiny human into this world.
- I LOVE everything about you.
The one thing you can count on during pregnancy is a lot of change—change in schedules, change in pace of life and also change in your wife’s body. It is during this time that she needs to hear you say and be reassured that you love everything about her. I had to train myself to tell her every day that I loved everything about her.
- You are so BEAUTIFUL to me.
There will be times when your wife just doesn’t feel or look like herself. She will need to hear the word beautiful from your mouth, so she can believe it for herself. Pregnancy is very beautiful, but, for women, it can make them feel the total opposite.
- I am GRATEFUL for everything you do for our family.
The downfall of pregnancy is you will see your wife make faces, different types of noises and possibly get called some hurtful names. But, the thing is you can’t feel her pain or the discomfort she is going through. This is when you must remind her how grateful you are for her and all she is doing to bring your children into this world. The spirit of gratitude has a way to make challenging times worth it.
- How can I HELP you?
You will need to ask her this every day, especially going into the third trimester. She will be very limited in her mobility, and the most simple of tasks will now become challenging for her. She needs to know that you are there to help her, which speaks LOUDER than any others words you may say.
- Lets PRAY together.
I’ve learned there are somethings I just can’t do for my wife that only God can. When we take time to pray together, it really does help us to come back to the central purpose of why we are doing what we do. It helps us to connect with the baby that is brewing in the oven. But, most importantly, we put our trust in God to continue to help us in areas we can’t help ourselves. Prayer is a POWERFUL tool; you as the husband need to make sure you’re making time for it each day.
- Do you need a MASSAGE?
This right here is the golden ticket to glory. If I had a penny for every time my wife mentioned how much her feet, back and every other body part hurt, then I would be a rich man. This is your indicator to offer up a massage to her.
- I will COOK dinner.
Now, if you don’t know how to cook, then this is a great time to learn (especially since you’ll have a kid to feed soon; two parents who know how to put together a meal is an advantage). I guarantee the amount of brownie points you get when you offer to cook dinner and CLEAN up after yourself is ridiculous. Remember, she is only pregnant for 9 months, so this season won’t last forever. Challenge yourself out of your norm and ask the Lord for grace to help you do something different. Serving your wife in this way shows a tremendous sign of support, concern and understanding of what she is going through.
Pregnancy is such an amazing journey, and its all worth it when your bundle of joy comes into this world. At times, your wife will feel alone with carrying your child, but it’s then that you must assist her, so she knows that it’s a team effort. This will make the pregnancy much more enjoyable for her and yourself. You got this!
BMWK ladies, in what ways does your spouse support you or make you feel better during pregnancy?