I don’t think my life will end when I get married. I don’t think it will begin either. Perhaps the union will be the sequel, the “to be continued” or the “happily ever after” to my current single state of mind.
I don’t live my life hoping and waiting for a husband. Yes, it would be nice if he comes riding in on a horse or in an environmentally-friendly car, but he won’t bring happiness.
For now, I’m enjoying my journey. Relationships and marriages are hard work. So it’s nice to exhaust my energy on myself for now. Before I jump the broom, I hope to jump for joy when I complete my Pre-Marriage Bucket List. I urge all singles to create a checklist of their own. Feel free to steal some of my ideas!
1. Take a Trip SOLO!
Subscribe to a deal a day website, and score an affordable vacation package for one. Traveling solo creates a high level of independence and self-reliance. Just make sure you select a safe city, and let your loved ones know where you’ll be at all times.
If you don’t want to travel abroad by yourself, select somewhere in another time zone. Or drive across the country, sightseeing along the way. If you can’t afford to go away, live in a hotel for the weekend. Then, relish in being able to pick a vacation spot without putting it up to a vote!
2. Break the Bank
Don’t literally break the bank. But do splurge on something special. Purchase a big ticket item, like a designer purse or a surround sound system. And enjoy not checking in with your partner regarding the purchase.
3. Make a Mess
Don’t make the bed in the morning. Leave your makeup or shaving products out on the sink. And let the laundry pile up another day or two. There’s no one to nag you about following the cleaning schedule, so enjoy the break.
4. Take up a Hobby
Swing by a club, pick up a paintbrush or beat a drum. Discover a new talent or pick up a new hobby. Try something new, and learn something new about yourself. Single or married, you should explore and establish your own individual interests.
5. Get a Makeover
Rock that Halle Berry cut you’ve been admiring for years. Dye your hair bright blonde or perhaps purple. Get another tattoo or piercing. You will always have your individuality, but when you’re single, you don’t have to ask for your partner’s opinion or get unsolicited feedback.
6. Adopt a Child
You don’t have to be married to be a mother or a father. Don’t wait on a ring to give a child a home if adoption has always been your dream. Give a young person a happy home and lots of love, no matter how many people are living under the roof.
7. Overcome a Fear
Are you too scared to quit your job, start a business, relocate to another state, tell someone you love him/her, jump out of an airplane or climb a mountain? Look fear in the face, and step out on faith. You will be a stronger, wiser person on the other side of scared.
Hey BMWK–What would you add to the list?