This week Ayize and Aiyana talk about what happens when couples have friends of the opposite sex AKA “Play Cousins”! You won’t want to miss this great episode!
Relationship & Life Coaches, Ayize & Aiyana Ma’at, are a loving and committed couple that have been together for 15 years and married for 8. Their union has produced 4 beautiful children who keep them very busy! They are the Co-founders of B Intentional, a Human Potential firm that can assist you with improving your relationships, overcoming obstacles, and reaching your most ridiculous goals. They provide perspective and insight to singles and couples through the “Ask The Ma’at’s Love & Life Advice Column” at www.bintentional.com. For more info on workshops & classes, visit www.bintentional.com.
Tara says
PREACH! Excellent video. You guys did it again! 🙂
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Talibah says
I’m not married…but I absolutely love your show! Thanks for continuing to share your wisdom.
Ronnie says
AMEN !!! I think that people can have friends of the opposite sex..but there are boundaries and you have described them perfectly. I am glad The Bottom Line is back!!
.-= Ronnie´s last blog ..VIDEO: The Bottom Line (Episode 6- Friends of the Opposite Sex AKA Play Cousins) =-.
Cheryl says
Crazy on point with that one! There does have to be a definitive line, and that was expertly explained.
Fontaine says
I really appericate you both!! I’m not married but in a relationship thats heading there! I really am connecting better with my Man because of the strong advice you guys give. Your a Blessing and I wish you the Best :0 🙂 Thanks a millon keep it comming !!!
TCB says
great video. Thanks!
Sun Diva says
Preach!
busybodyk says
Thanks for sharing your outlook. My husband and I watched the video together and don’t feel like you really addressed real “friendships”. The question was about a coworker who in our opinion isn’t the same as a real friendship. The comment about there always being underlying vibes between friends of the opposite sex was also wrong in our opinion. We don’t believe that real friends have that awkward tension. We did agree that all friends should be “our friends”. I think the most important thing is that both husband and wife agree on the rules and boundaries.
Aiyana Ma'at says
Thanks everyone for the love and support! I’m glad that folks are feeling our commentary… 🙂 We enjoy this process more than you know. It’s great to be a part of a community of folks that are seriuos about taking their relationships to the next level.
@busybodyk
I agree with you that the most important thing is that both husband and wife agree on the rules and boundaries. With you 100% there…
In regards to your other thoughts…
“My husband and I watched the video together and dont feel like you really addressed real “friendshipsâ€. The question was about a coworker who in our opinion isnt the same as a real friendship”
The parameters around friends of the opposite sex are applicable period. It doesn’t matter if they’re a co-worker or a childhood friend. I, myself, have a childhood friend that I’ve known for going on 20 years now. We were very close but when I got married the nature of the relationship had to change. He was and still is a true and authentic friend but I still manage the relationship based on him being someone of the opposite sex. We’re not saying run away from people of the opposite sex but we are saying that we must use discernment and manage the relationship.
“The comment about there always being underlying vibes between friends of the opposite sex was also wrong in our opinion. We dont believe that real friends have that awkward tension.”
My mother always told me anyone is capable of anything. And, we have definitely witnessed that in the work we’ve done with couples. We’re not saying that friends who are members of the opposite sex automatically deal with awkward tension. However, we are definitely saying that if the relationship is not managed correctly the potential for that energy to surface is there. Even the most solid relationship can be made vulnerable to innocent intentions if opposite sex friendships aren’t managed correctly.
Last but not least thanks for the feedback everybody! 🙂
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MichaelMartin says
All I can do is agree…. lol
Real Wives Of Chicago says
This was a great video and awesome topic. We (RWOC) have touched on this subject several times with our hot topics but never seem to come up with definitive answers to the questions. Thanks for your videos as they provide so much insight and direction.
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Tiya says
My husband and I were just having this discussion. We also agreed that our friends of the opposite sex have to be “friends of the marriage” which ultimately means, no appropriate conversations, no telling the friends more than we share with the spouse, and the friend should be comfortable hanging out with both of us, in a group. Great video!