Who would have thought a black man leaving home for work in the morning would be a turn on? Lately, I’ve been checking my man out on the way out the door. He’s dressed nicely, smells good, and determined not to be late. It’s the same routine Monday ““ Friday, yet I’m not feeling the same way I felt about it before we married.
While dating, my boyfriend (now husband) and I were just grateful for jobs. Even after the honeymoon, a job was more of a requirement than a turn on. Both of us went to work, brought home paychecks, and tried to make ends meet. Although things haven’t changed much in terms of maintaining consistent employment, what has changed is how I view my husband’s contribution to the family. He isn’t just a breadwinner anymore; now he’s a fine black man who works hard for his family without complaining.
That’s sexy to me.
What’s also sexy is when he decides to ride in the backseat with our daughter so they can play games on the iPod. Watching their interactions in the rearview mirror, I get overwhelmed with gratefulness for such an amazing husband. His sexiness intensifies when I see him reading his Bible, praying, or encouraging others with a word. Sometimes I wonder if God objects to me thinking romantically about my husband as he kneels at the altar, but then I remember that it was God who created intimacy between a husband and a wife. He’s more than pleased when our spirits, souls, and bodies align with His word and with each other.
Even taking out the trash for early morning pick up makes my heart flutter. Why? Because truth be told, he doesn’t have to do it ““not during a thunderstorm or in 20 degree weather. But he does it anyway. He goes to work anyway. He goes to the store to buy my feminine products anyway. He attempts to dress our daughter and comb her hair anyway. He checks the doors for me in the middle of the night anyway. He loves me despite my moods and flaws anyway.
That’s what real men do. And real men are sexy.
Marrying a good man has changed my desires and expectations. I could care less about “Mr. Tall, Dark, and Handsome.” I am satisfied and hopelessly in love with a man who honors me as his wife, adores his child, and provides for his family. If that’s not sexy, I don’t know what is.
Single and married ladies, what makes a man sexy to you?
I love this article. It redefines the image of sexy. My husband is an attractive man; but, he was definately not my “type” and everyone wondered what is it the drew me to him. I tell them it was his walk with God, his work with abused and neglected children, and most importantly his love for me. They say a virtuous woman is worth rubies and gold; but, and Godly man is a rare treasure too.
I totally agree. A godly man is a rare treasure. Thank for sharing.
I’ve been married for 20 years to that man: hard working; full of character and committment. We’re still about the business of raising kids and loving every day of it. Amen!!!
Wonderful Pat. 20 years is a blessing. We just celebrated 16 years.
Blessings to you and your husband.
I love this article. I feel the same way about my husband. I try and express that to him and he just gives me this blank look and says well its what I am supposed to do. Love him more every passing day.
Keep telling him. They love to hear and “feel” that you appreciate them.
Great article. As we grow we really see what’s sexy in a man/woman.
This is definitely what I see in a sexy man (Sounds awkward for me to say my dad is sexy..but hey, he’s the only man I’ve been able to observe the most)…
*Staying awake until I’ve arrived home to open the car garage, open the door for me, and walk me in the house.
*When he washes the dishes for the entire family (I’ve never washed a dish at home in Michigan)
*When he rescues me from a spider or a centipede lol
*He dresses up to GO NO WHERE
*(my baby syndrome…) When I’m in my bed, he thinks I don’t hear him…but he comes to see if I’m sleeping peacefully. Even pulls my covers up, turns the tv off, and hit the lights.
*HE’s EVEN SEXY when he dances and he doesn’t have a lick of rhythm.
That’s just to name a few. 😉
LOVE, LOVE this list. Our first impressions should come from our fathers. Thanks for adding that dimension to the convo.
Now that is an amazing husband.
I’ve never commented on this site but this article compelled me to because of a conversation that I had with a male friend just the other day. I told him that the one of the sexiest things that a man could do for me would be to take out my trash without me asking. He laughed like I was crazy but seriously there’s something about a man being a man; fixing something around the house, talking business on the phone, defending my honor, praying…that is so attractive way beyond his height, skin tone and scent of his cologne (though those things do help). I can’t wait for my King to find me so that we can reveal those subtle special things that make us man and woman to each other. Great article!
Dr. Michelle we have a lot in common when speaking of husbands my husband is much like yours. He works two jobs a full time and part time job everyday, leave one job go directly to the next. He takes care of home financially and caretaker of his family. He reads his bible every night, he makes sure his family is safe, he makes sure he is there for his girls, he shows them what real men do, and most of all he loves us unconditionally with all our flaws. But what makes him sexy is his the way he grooms himself. All during the week he wear a work uniform, but on Sunday he transforms from Keith to Kewayne(his nickname). In our first years of marriage and we been married 15 years, I used to sit on the bed and watch him get dressed fascinated over the care and attention he took in his appearance. He wear a suit better than anyone I have ever seen. And smells awesome, when he walks in church all eyes are on him. As his wife I make sure his clothes are on point. His appearance is a reflection on me as a wife. And he is a gentle, soft spoken man. And can SING!!
This article is awesome….I have a wonderful, sweet, saved, man that is an awesome provider for his family. I too get the warm glow, when he is preaching, teaching the Word of God, and when he prays…wonderful. I am grateful to God for this treasure. He does SO much for us! And after 26 years of wedded bliss, the fire continues to simmer. God bless you all for your treasures also.
Not married YET, but I believe God has brought me me one. We are long distance and have been for two years. We pray together and always discuss sermons on Sundays and we try and do some self evaluation so we can apply the lesson. Its sexy because he can admit he is not perfect and he needs God’s help to become the man he wants to be! And he rubs my feet 🙂 Love that! lol
I can related. I haven’t married my man yet (We are getting hitched in October of this year!) I was telling my mother the other day how the sexiest thing he has ever said to me was that he was praying for me. I swear that ever since he proposed God has been turning me into the wife for MY man. Apart of that has been the level of attraction. He is so attractive to me. Just in how he carries himself, how he loves me and respects me. I can’t wait to enter the holy union of matrimony with that man!
This is a great article. I have to say a man is sexy when he goes over and above to protect and provide for his family out of love.
Wonderfully, said ladies about your husbands and future husbands. I’m a single women standing wait for the Lord to bless me… so pray.Thank you in advance…What’s makes a man sexy to me is he is willing and wanting to protect and provide for his family. Yes, and can give good hugs…wow…just being in his arms can make me melt.Taking the work off my body when I come home from a hard day at work with a hug. (Yes) Most of all a man that knows how to pray and seek God’s face. (That’s a sexy man that can do all that)…Okay ladies pray for me…
This was such a beautiful article. I read it to my husband and hsve so much more appreciation for him now and he enjoyed the article too. Thank you!
You’re welcome.
I agree wholeheartedly with every word of this article. Warmed my soul 🙂
So glad it did. Thanks for reading and commenting.
Well said Dr. Michelle. Ladies let’s not forget that it takes a REAL woman to even notice those sexy ways, beyond the phyiscial, of a real man. My husband is sexy to me when he helps me put food away after going to the grocery store. He is sexy when I see him kneeled down to pray. He is sexy when he seeks my opinion regarding an important decision that needs to be made. I have been married for 14 years and I cant say that I have expereinced all that you ladies have. (YET!) Im counting it all joy! I cant honestly say that my husband loves me unconditionally with all my flaws or that he honors and respects me as his wife. I cant wait for the day that my husband puts his wants aside for me, or picks up his bible without being in church, or looks at me with honor in his eyes. Ladies it is a blessing to have these things from your husbands and I cant wait until the day that I can say the same! Its been a long tough road for us. I know God is not a respecter of persons. He has great things in store for us. I cant go by what it looks like now, I have to have the faith in whats to come. God bless you ladies and your marriages.
I really enjoyed this article! From a real man’s perspective, the biggest motivation and reward for doing what should done is when we’re appreciated. It could be verbally, physically, in the form of a good meal, etc. The appreciation just encourages me to do more of what I already expect of myself! I’m blessed to have the woman in my life that God created especially for me, the more she appreciates me, the harder I work for her!
D. Dantz
D Dantz that was awesome!
May God continue to bless your union.
Love this article.
We are still fairly new in America (moved from Africa recently) and this relocation has helped me appreciate my hubby in a WHOLE new way.
His protective,confident and leading nature has come out strongly, something that i doubt I will have noticed (in this magnitude) if we were still in the ‘home-turf’ security.
He doesn’t see it as a big deal (actually wonders at my effusive ‘wonderment’) but its such a magnet to me 🙂 🙂
I love this article as well. I have been thinking the same way about my husband. How sexy it is when speaks about the Lord, how special i feel when I go out to my car in the morning for work and find that he has already warmed it up and cleaned the ice of the windshield and how he will spend the day with our son so I can have some me time. For a while I didn’t think we would make it, but with prayer, counseling, and encouragement from the pastor of our church, our marraige is stronger than ever.
That’s absolutely beautiful. Praise God that you all are “still standing.”
Awwwwwwww this is nice and yes its sexy too. It nice to know that there are great godly men that are not superficial but a real treasure too…
Likes the article…
Wow. My husband seconds your comment. Thanks for sharing that.
As a man married 21 years and counting I want to thank you ladies for watching. Never knew that stuff was seen as sexy it’s just what we were ment to do.
What is sexy about my husband gosh I have some many reason why he is the sexiest man in the world. He is a provider, protector, and he loves me and my children like his own. He takes the trash out, cleans like nobody business, and he makes me laugh so hard. My family loves him like he’s one of us and that the best thing in the world. He will give his last to someone who is in need, and last but not least he loves his mother and father like no other.
What makes my man sexy to me, is seeing him play with our girls. Helping with homework, putting them to bed, and just being a great father.
I love the way my husband supports and encourages me to do my best. He’s one of my biggest fans!! God is awesome
Thank you for this article and all of you who comment echoing the story! It just reinforces the fact that not only are there good men out there (because most of the time all we men hear is negativity and where we are wrong and dogs, liars and cheaters), but that there are great women that do stand behind that man rather than run him down and they really do appreciate him rather than take him for granted! Hope in a hopeless world!
Love this article!! Dr. Johnson, you and your husband truly serve as an inspiration to the younger generations, that’s a fact. I’m so happy that God has graced you two and given you the strength to maintain a lasting, loving marriage that glorifies HIM and edifies all of us. Tv media tells us this kind of relationship is impossible, far-fetched at best–BUT God has something different in store for His people!! And you are living proof of that!! Please, stay encouraged as you continue to let God use you to inspire and ecourage others. May God keep blessing you and keeping your beautiful family!
I certainly can relate to this woman and her relationship with her husband. Seeing my husband spending time in worship, praying or reading his word – solidifies my love for him all over again. The way he tends to my needs and is so protective of me helps me to feel safe and secure with him and that’s SEXY!!
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