When you said, “I Do” to your spouse on your wedding day, you were making a commitment like none other. A commitment to love, cherish and honor one another through the good, bad and ugly as long as you both shall live. No matter how long or fast it took you to get to that altar, all that mattered in that moment was your future together.
The first year of marriage is what many call the honeymoon phase. You may have even heard someone say, “honey, just wait until the honeymoon love phase wears off.” For me, when I heard people say that to me, I just brushed it off like it wouldn’t happen to us.
Well, it surely did.
The feeling of the “honeymoon” love definitely does wear off especially once kids come into the picture. But that isn’t something to be shocked about because that’s just human nature. The same effects happen when we get a new car, a new house or even a new job. The newness wears off, and we have to then begin to put effort into keeping the “love” alive.
Everyone has different ways to keep the romance alive in their marriage—from daily text messages, weekly date nights or even scheduling sex. But, there is another way to bring a shock back into your love life with your spouse—and that’s by leaving her!
No, not actually leaving your spouse a Dear John letter and taking off unannounced. But do arrange moments for your spouse to miss you!
The average time married couples are away from one another is 7-8 hours a day, which is when one or both couples are at work. They then come home to spend 4 hours together usually watching TV. This gives NO TIME at all for you to miss one another.
When was the last time you received a text message from your spouse saying, “I miss you.”
My wife went on a girls weekend away, leaving me with our 9-month-old baby by myself for an entire FOUR days. When she asked me if it was okay for her to go, my initial reaction was, “Where is Harvest (our little girl) going to go? Lol.
I relented because I knew that not only did she need to get away, but it would also give us an opportunity to miss one another. While she was away, it took me back to our dating days when we didn’t live with one another. We ended up doing the same things we used to do when we were dating. We texted late at night (some with a little extra flirt in them). We texted, “goodnight baby.” The last time we texted, “goodnight” was before we got married.
These little surges of romance reignited our love for another because it reminded us of the small reasons why we committed our life to one another.
I encourage you to let your spouse go away for a weekend with her/his friends. Don’t see them being gone as a bad thing, but as an opportunity to see your love reignited. It’s amazing how a simple text saying, “I miss you” is something we all crave to hear in this life.
Let them go, so you can send that text and see your love come alive again.
BMWK, how often do you get to spend days apart from your spouse? Does this help to reignite your love for your spouse?