This may sound strange, but I kinda wish my husband had married someone else – someone a little different…someone a little less green and naïve about how this whole thing called marriage was really supposed to work. I wish his wife was better equipped to handle the truth about what marriage really means. Why? Because then, she would know to expect rocky roads, good night and bad days. She wouldn’t be so devastated by fights about the frivolous and would quickly learn the true meaning of “opposites attract”.
I wish my husband had married someone that was more tolerant when it comes to the shortcomings – those of her own and those of her sweet husband. I wish his bride could grasp the simple fact that when it comes to marriage – nothing and nobody’s perfect. Not a soul…not a mortal…and especially not a couple. Speaking of perfection, I wish my husband had married someone smart enough to understand that even though THEY are not perfect, that they are perfect for each other.
I wish my husband had married a woman who knew early on in their marriage, to take care of herself first. She didn’t realize that it was completely necessary that she ate right, got proper rest and carved out “me time”. She was ignorant to the fact that she could avoid being tired and living in the constant state of exhaustion. She would know that when mommy’s alright…the rest of the family would be ok too! Besides, what husband wants to see a tired, run-down shell of a woman? A good man deserves a vibrant and attractive woman.
Now that I think about it, if it weren’t for all of things that she WAS NOT, then she would not be the wife that she is now! She wouldn’t be the attentive, intuitive, [self]-loving wife she is today. I guess you can say that I am thankful that God chose me to be that wife, because going through tough times and simply learning each other has made our bond even stronger. No matter what she wasn’t equipped to handle in the beginning of the marriage, they have both taken it in stride and have committed to making it work.
BMWK – how have you grown as a person since getting married?
Great post Sheree. Loved this.
Thanks Lamar!
Great Title Sheree. I was like…What the?? I had to stop and read it. I agree with Lamar. Great article. I read somewhere, “you learn what to do by exhausting all the things you should not do.” Marriage…being a vibrant and attractive wife…and a smart and sassy mom…all comes from learning what you shouldn’t do and perfecting what works for all parties involved. So fret not. Be encouraged and know God is on your side. That is, He’s routing for you to find His perfect plan and path he laid out for your before you arrived here. For part of the joy of arriving at your destination is the journey you take along the way. So don’t besmirch stony and wooded paths. Therein lies the experience you’ll reference when you’re helping others through find their way through similar proving-grounds. All the best to you Sheree.
Thanks Heath. You got me feeling all emotional. What wonderful things to say! I receive them. I am still learning and felt bad that at first, I didn’t know a lot or much of anything except for God brought us together. We’re supposed to make each other happy and when things didn’t work out the way I THOUGHT they should have…I was sooo disappointed. Thank God for wisdom and patience!
Wonderful article…. I understood and thought exactly the same thing about myself in our marriage. It was truly a blessing to see you articulate it in such an eloquent fashion. Thank you for the wonderful article– that fully described me!!!
Awesome article…Divorce is not an option so we must work it out.Thanks for sharing