This may sound strange, but I kinda wish my husband had married someone else – someone a little different…someone a little less green and naïve about how this whole thing called marriage was really supposed to work. I wish his wife was better equipped to handle the truth about what marriage really means. Why? Because then, she would know to expect rocky roads, good night and bad days. She wouldn’t be so devastated by fights about the frivolous and would quickly learn the true meaning of “opposites attract”.
I wish my husband had married someone that was more tolerant when it comes to the shortcomings – those of her own and those of her sweet husband. I wish his bride could grasp the simple fact that when it comes to marriage – nothing and nobody’s perfect. Not a soul…not a mortal…and especially not a couple. Speaking of perfection, I wish my husband had married someone smart enough to understand that even though THEY are not perfect, that they are perfect for each other.
I wish my husband had married a woman who knew early on in their marriage, to take care of herself first. She didn’t realize that it was completely necessary that she ate right, got proper rest and carved out “me time”. She was ignorant to the fact that she could avoid being tired and living in the constant state of exhaustion. She would know that when mommy’s alright…the rest of the family would be ok too! Besides, what husband wants to see a tired, run-down shell of a woman? A good man deserves a vibrant and attractive woman.
Now that I think about it, if it weren’t for all of things that she WAS NOT, then she would not be the wife that she is now! She wouldn’t be the attentive, intuitive, [self]-loving wife she is today. I guess you can say that I am thankful that God chose me to be that wife, because going through tough times and simply learning each other has made our bond even stronger. No matter what she wasn’t equipped to handle in the beginning of the marriage, they have both taken it in stride and have committed to making it work.
BMWK – how have you grown as a person since getting married?