Are you making plans to get married soon? Have you decided if you are going to write your own vows or recite them from the minister or Justice of the Peace? No matter what you decide, consider incorporating these three vows: love, honor and obey.
Love
Love is a given, I mean why else would you marry each other right? But love is not just the fluttering you feel in your stomach when you think about your honey or the strong physical attraction between you two. Vowing to love each other means you are dedicated to working on your marriage and ensuring you won’t give up when you face struggles.
Honor
Vowing to honor each other means you will show respect towards each other and the marriage. Don’t allow others to disrespect your marriage or your spouse either. You honor each other by accepting each other’s differences and treating each other the way they want to be treated.
The way you may want to be treated may not always be the way your spouse wants to be treated. For instance, your spouse may not like when you interrupt them while they are watching TV, whereas you are fine with them interrupting you. The longer you are together, the more you will learn each other and respect each other’s feelings.
Obey
Lastly, obey should be one of your vows. You both should make a vow to obey the Word of God. I know you probably thought I was talking about obeying each other, but no, I am talking about obeying God. For example, there may be times when God may tell you to apologize to your spouse first after an argument even if you feel you are not in the wrong. He may tell you to not speak some particular words that you really want your spouse to hear. If you listen and obey His voice, you can avoid many unnecessary arguments and keep peace in your relationship. The Word has many solutions to what you will experience in your marriage; I encourage you both to read it together often.
So if you are getting married in the near future, think about what your vows mean to you. The vow to obey can be recited together to God as a commitment to allow Him to be the center of your marriage. If you are already married, it’s not too late to make the vow to obey God. Remember that obeying Him can make loving and honoring your spouse easier because if you ask, He will show you how to be the spouse you need to be to each other.
BMWK – Will you make the vow to love, honor and obey?
Chris Pitonsi says
Hi, I appreciate So much your advice about love honor, and obeying God. Most of marriages are falling bcz peoples don’t associate them to God. God bless u
LaToya Irving says
Thanks for the feedback Chris! Be blessed!
Anonymous says
Obey: the vow wasn’t ever meant to obey God, but obey the Husband. I think that it doesn’t need to be in the vows, period.
Davina says
I was thinking about this today. I’m engaged and when people talk about us breaking up he doesn’t defend us. Also its like every now and then I find myself dissapointed in him..sure he buys things for me but we all know that gifts don’t buy love..don’t even get me started on how he can’t comfort me or make me feel listened to… I’ve told so many times sometimes with tears in my eyes.
Reading just made me feel like I should break it off. If your man can’t be your #1 supporter then its time to pack my bags.
LaToya says
Davina, if you feel he is not the one, make your decision before it’s too late. Make sure you tell him how you feel first.