What does it mean to be sexy? Does it only come when you’re under 35 with long hair and packaged in a size 2? Is it what you see in magazines and on TV?

I don’t think so. It’s more than what you see on the outside. It begins on the inside. It’s an internal knowing that has no age limit. It’s a mindset that moves from the internal to the external.

On the outside it reveals itself in how we walk, how we talk, how we dress and how we act. It regulates the sway and swing in our step. It determines the volume of our voice -the bold confidence or the soft whisper. It all begins on the inside.

Working in a middle school, I’ve seen preteens and teens trying to be sexy at an inappropriate time in their life and for all the wrong reasons, trying to get the attention of someone of the opposite sex.

I’ve also had women well over 70 teach me a thing or two about being sexy. You see sexy is for you. It is in you -the grown, confident woman who knows her value and her worth and is willing to stand in all the greatness God has lavished on her.

The sexy wife is sexy because that’s who she is. Now, her husband gets to partake in the fruits of her labor.

• She gets up in the morning and adorns herself in clothing that matches the beauty she feels on the inside.
• Her smiles gives light to the joy that is in her heart.
• Her attitude and her demeanor are fitting of a queen because she knows she is royalty.
• Her mind is at work because God has given her purpose.
• Her body is fit because she needs it to serve her well.

This is the sexy wife who can serve her husband well. Not because she puts on some skimpy low cut outfit to arouse his manhood, but because she has worked on herself. She has spent time in her secret place alone with God and he has fashioned her after his design.

Her fruit is visible because of the seeds sown and the labor invested when no one was watching. Now tell me, what beautifully shaped, colored to perfection, sweet and succulent fruit is not sexy? You admire the beauty, wonder if it’s sweet, and long to take a bite.

Yes, that’s the sexy wife. She is fragile yet strong. Her fruit is sweet and her husband is allowed to enjoy as she permits.

If a wife is sexy for no other reason than the clothes she wears, it’s a superficial facade that can be put on and taken off. The sexy wife doesn’t change with the seasons. She is sexy 365 days of the year whether wearing sweats or nothing at all. That’s because her beauty comes from within -that’s the sexy wife.

BMWK, are you a sexy wife who’s staying sexy?