Everybody knows marriage is difficult, particularly if you don’t put the time and effort into building a strong foundation. It gets easier with time, but during the process of growing into mature, selfless spouses, marriage requires a will to fight for the union. Marriage is not for the weak-minded or soft-hearted. Marriage is for warriors. But being a woman warrior can be especially challenging if you don’t know how to fight.
Woman Warrior: 10 Ways You Should Fight for Your Marriage
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To be a warrior-wife you must be willing to go to war for your marriage. This doesn’t mean you are paranoid about something going wrong. What it means is that you take proactive steps to strengthen the marriage bond and protect your family from negative influences. As a woman warrior, if and when trouble comes, your marriage will withstand hard times.
Here are 10 ways I believe wives can be warriors for their marriages and families.
The Woman Warrior is never alone
1.A prayer warrior: a wife who knows the power of prayer. She intercedes for her husband and children. Her walk with God isn’t based on praying only when things are bad; she prays in good times and in bad times. When her husband needs prayer, he asks his wife because he knows she has a deep relationship with God. Her prayers soothe and comfort her family. They rebuke evil and cast out negativity. They declare goodness and favor in their lives. Not only does she pray, but she also believes what she prays.
2.A worship warrior: a wife who is not afraid to praise and worship God. She knows where her help comes from, and she expresses her gratefulness wherever and whenever the Spirit moves her. “Thank you, Lord,” is her praise song.
3. A word warrior: a wife who uses her words to speak life and wisdom to her husband and children. She knows how to encourage herself and her family in the Lord. Her words heal, comfort, and correct with love. On the other hand, she doesn’t hesitate to speak in defense of her family when others try to harm them. She knows her tongue is a mighty weapon, so she uses it wisely.
4. A purpose-driven warrior: a wife who knows that God has a purpose for her marriage. She’s willing to fight for it when others say she should give up. She partners with her husband to achieve their marriage and family goals. Her motto is “Let’s do this!”
The Woman Warrior takes care of the family
5. A mother-warrior: A wife who doesn’t play when it comes to her children. She teaches them about God, about respect for themselves, and about the importance of family. A mother-warrior believes her role as a mother is a divine responsibility and that God will hold her accountable for how she rears her children. As such, she does whatever it takes to make sure her children feel safe and loved; are fed and clothed; and are educated properly.
6. A household warrior: a wife who protects the peace and sanctity of the home. She doesn’t allow negativity to infiltrate the home environment because she knows the home should be the safest place in the world for her family.
7. A sexual warrior: a wife who isn’t afraid to enjoy physical intimacy with her husband. She initiates sex and enjoys pleasing her husband. When the love life goes lacking or gets monotonous, she steps up to re-energize things.
8. A financial warrior: a wife who can take a few dollars and make a meal that tastes like a million bucks. She doesn’t complain about what the family doesn’t have; instead, she knows how to make do with they do have. She plans for rainy days and helps her husband provide for the family.
The Spirit of the Woman Warrior
9. A discernment warrior: a wife with a sixth sense to see and feel what’s good and what’s bad for the marriage. Because she prays regularly and hears from God, she can sense when someone has malicious intentions toward her family or when someone is genuine friend.
10. A confidence warrior: a wife who makes her man feel like he can do anything he sets his mind to. She is a constant encourager who believes in her husband when he doesn’t believe in himself.
I want to encourage you to embrace the warrior inside of you. As wives and future-wives, we don’t have to accept whatever life throws at us. God made us in His image, which means we have the power to create the marriages and lives we deserve. Every woman has a warrior on the inside of her. That’s why “a man who finds a wife finds a treasure and has favor with the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22). That treasure is his warrior-wife who’s not afraid to fight for their love.
BMWK family, feel free to add to the list. What other ways are wives warriors?
Editor’s Note – This post was originally published on February 16, 2012, and has been updated for quality and relevancy.