At some point in each of our lives, we serve as the teacher and the student. As a student we have to be open to learn as well as quick to apply those lessons. Marriage is no exception. While there are things we teach our spouse, there are also things we should be learning.
Of course, the teaching comes easy for most of us. We have to show our spouse how to love us, which is the most important lesson of all. Couples continue to struggle whenever this isn’t learned in the beginning.
The key to being a student, on the other hand, is your willingness to receive what’s being taught. I’m grateful that although it wasn’t easy, I’m in a position to learn from my husband. Here’s what he taught me about love and marriage:
- Love must be demonstrated in your actions
The words “I love you” are pretty easy to say. Saying it through your behavior and by being kind, gentle and thoughtful is what many of us take for granted. - Communication is everything
Being clear and listening twice as much as I spoke were lessons I desperately needed to learn. - Everyone wants to feel special
Just because they’re men doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate the little thoughtful things too. - My husband’s needs matter as much as mine
Being reminded I wasn’t the only one in this marriage was another lesson I needed, sooner rather than later. - Individual outlets and hobbies are necessary
Spending some time apart makes us appreciate our marriage even more. - Quality time together has to be a priority
Date nights and getaways are a must in my marriage. And we don’t simply save them for holidays or special occasions, they’re spontaneous and frequent. - Sacrifice is key to marriage success
You might have to give up something you want. But you’ll survive, and your marriage will be better as a result of it, trust me. - Understanding and sensitivity are a must
My husband and I bring unique experiences to our marriage. Both must be respected. - Having his back has become my honor
My role as a wife is to support and defend my husband. My loyalty lies with him. - Acceptance of the good, the bad and the ugly comes with the territory
I have to accept flaws and all, just like he’s done with me.
If I hadn’t been open to learning these things who knows what the state of our marriage would look like. I’m thankful that God made me a student of these crucial love lessons. My marriage has only benefited from each.
BMWK, what has your spouse taught you about love and marriage?
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