Recently I read a question from a wife who was annoyed by her husband’s groping her. Whether he was doing it with slaps on the backside or groping her body in other ways, the fondling that seemed to be a turn on for her husband was turning her all the way off.
She wasn’t entirely turned off by her husband’s desire to touch her. But she was turned off by the fact that the only time he touched her was to tell her “let’s get it on.” The signal he gave to let her know he wanted to be physically intimate just served as a reminder to her that most of the time, they were anything but.
This story isn’t at all rare. Couples don’t touch all day, all week or all month and still expect to feel the connection to one another when the lights go out. The truth is that we can’t neglect each other all day and expect to feel passion at the end of it. Passion and intimacy has to build, starting first thing in the morning. In many ways we need to essentially be “making love” to our spouses all day.
If you’re wondering how you can make love all day when you have other obligations like a job, kids and household responsibilities, it’s not as hard as it seems. Remember those early days in your marriage of not being able to keep your hands off of each other? You can start to feel that way again by making it a point not to keep your hands off of each other. If all day feels like foreplay, the transition into the bedroom will be a lot more natural. It’s easier to keep a fire going that’s already lit than to start a new one from scratch.
To get you started, I’ve listed 25 little ways to touch your spouse all day long. Bonus: A lot of them are G-rated enough that you don’t have to hide them from the kids.