3) I’m Too Busy
Fellas I work a job where I manage 10 employees and I run a business as well. I know that time is of the essence and I know what it means to feel like there just aren’t enough hours in a day. The question you have to ask yourself, is why does my WIFE seem to get the scrap hours while everything else in my life seems to get my quality hours?
The old adage is real in that people make time for what they want to make time for and there isn’t any way around it. Stop telling yourself you don’t have time and it will be amazing how much time you start to find.
Guys, the point of this blog isn’t to beat you up but it’s to make you more conscious. The things I listed, I know all too well because I’ve lived it and I am still trying to get better at them. The bottom line though is that if we change the expectations of ourselves, we can change our behavior and ultimately get an outcome that works better for our lives and our relationships. Let’s make it a point to love her better and stay connected!
BMWK, did you see yourself or the man in your life, in any of these descriptions?
Excellent article. All of these things encourage connection.
this is a word!
A very great article. A challenge to keep in mind do not program yourself to want a marriage, but build it! It is more fun because you will have to work at what works for the two of you being one. I never want to lead my husband but learn him. When he supports me emotionally I am SUPER excited! It helps make the love grow… sooner or later so much love will be laying around you won’t know what to do with yourself. A big ball of sensitivity.
Anything worth having is worth fighting for. No one can make anybody do anything or change anyone but I can say Love will make you give of yourself and think more of the other person and then the other person will do the same. There is no room for selfishness in a relationship. In marriage God said a man should love his wife like CHRIST loved the church, HE DIED FOR THE CHURCH, His love for the Church is powerful and is always giving. All the church had to do was submit to that love and respect it. God gave Adam Eve to have someone to commune with. Communication is intimacy, it’s how you get to really know each other, dreams, fears, likes, dislikes, hurts, pains and what makes you feel good. If anyone thinks SEX makes a relationship they will not last because animals do that and we’re more than animals. Just like God communicates with us and we talk to Him in prayer is an example of how we are supposed to communicate in our marriage relationship. Communication is the key to a lasting relationship and it’s two parts, listening and speaking.
Thanks Rebecca!
Thanks Shika! Please share that word with some others!
Thanks Ariel! Yes marriage must be built and the journey is fun if two people are willing to sacrifice!
Thanks Anonymous! I couldn’t agree more!
I also wanted to say that the woman was created fo the man. If men remember GOD said that the man needed a help mate. She was to compliment him. When something compliments something it makes it look better she helps to bring praise to that man. Read about the Prov. 31 woman in the bible. She makes him well known. Thats why GOD said that hen a man has a good wife he has found a good thing. It also talks about her values. A women is very precious in GOD’S. eyes a godly women. Even James Brown told men. This is a man’s world BUT IT IS NOTHING,NOTHING,NOTHING without a women or a girl.sowe all have something to work but men need to also reconize the onderful gift they have been given. They always talk about they are the head well set the example. Take the lead, follow the christ, he never looked down on women. Sorry but I felt this was something that needed to be said. My husband always tell his friends when they start talking about women. You guys are on your own I’m out of her and he will leave because he knows where I’m getting ready to go.
Ashe! *Snaps* You spoke to my life about affection. At 22 years old and at the birth of this dating experience, learning to show affection is a struggle. It really throws off the men that I meet because the woman is usually more affectionate. They could see I desired to both give and receive it but struggle with putting affection into action. This is also reflected in my relationships with family and friends. I was conditioned to not be affectionate due to what I have witnessed in my parents marriage. As a result I have never had a relationship before because I was not able to receive the affection that these great men were willing to give. But your article gave me hope that I this is definitely something I can overcome with action.
What if, it’s your wife with the 3 LIES?
Then what?