Being in a relationship is exciting, especially in the beginning. The getting to know you phase allows us an opportunity to answer questions and discover who the person is beneath the surface. As you’re learning one another, you’ll uncover likes, dislikes, pet peeves, turn offs and yes, turn ons.
Dating can sometimes be the movie trailer for marriage. It provides a little taste of what a marriage would look like, if it happened to be with this particular person. The keyword, was a little taste. Some singles are in dating relationships for years, that they hope leads to a marriage, wondering why it hasn’t gone to that next level. The answer usually lies inside that relationship.
Marriage is a serious commitment, and needs thoughtful, careful consideration prior to making that leap. Unfortunately, not everyone is ready to be a spouse. In other cases, there doesn’t appear to be an urgency to move it the next level, because the couple is already doing everything a married couple would do. Some believe, there are things that should be reserved for your husband or your wife. I wonder if some singles, are giving up too much too soon and causing a delay in being able to walk down that aisle. Dating is about attraction, interest and being compatible.
Those things naturally happen during conversations and time spent together. Single adults of course, can make the decision to take it all the way, and share parts of themselves, they would typically hold off to do with a spouse whenever they want. We want to make sure the reasons we are, aren’t just to keep a potential partner interested. Loving ourselves means, we know what we offer and we are willing to wait on someone who has proved themselves worthy of it. When intimacy does happen while dating, there a few things we should also consider.
For Christians, there shouldn’t be very much dating intimacy of course. Having a goal of saving ourselves for marriage is attainable for those who believe in the power of God and sanctity of marriage. Here are 3 reasons why married intimacy should be different from dating intimacy.
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Jackie says
So very true…great article!
Tiya says
Thank you!
Adrina says
Great article!
A lot of Christian bloggers, pastors, etc talk about #3. I always wondered their opinion about this question.
What about people who had sex prior to marriage, lived together, etc and still get married without waiting for years and years (under 3 years actually)? I happened to know several people actually.
Thoughts?
bunmi edwards says
Hmmm dis for me is a wakeup call