Recently, I wrote an article offering 3 Simple Tips for wives to invest in their husbands. I was encouraged by the women, both single and married, who were already doing these things in their relationships or were looking forward to investing in their future husbands.
For many women, nurturing a relationship comes naturally. We are usually the ones who will step in and take care of the crying babies, sick parents, or hurting friends. As a result, we sometimes tend to neglect our own wants and needs. Before we know it, days, weeks, and years have passed and we realize the most precious thing we have lost is time. If you’re a husband who desires to invest in your wife, these three elements of time are sure to help her flourish.
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I know the look on my husband’s face that tells me he doesn’t quite understand what’s going on with me. Whether I’m going through something deeply emotional or we are just not seeing eye to eye, the most important thing to me is that he takes whatever time is necessary to understand the page I’m on.
When a husband makes this kind of investment in his wife’s heart and mind, it sends the message that she is in a safe place to release the things that are weighing her down. By listening, asking a lot of questions. and not defaulting to “yes dear,” he at once confirms both his love and protection. Once the weight is off of her shoulders, she is then free to fix her eyes on the things that will make her and their relationship even stronger.
Regardless of her station in life, a woman’s slate is usually filled meeting the needs of those closest to her. She typically squeezes her needs in somewhere by sacrificing such things as eating, sleeping, or just having fun. Having gotten used to living this way, even as a single woman, she brings this mentality into her married life. Often times, you hear of women who will set aside their careers or their dreams for the sake of their family. While there is ultimately nothing wrong with that choice, a husband can invest in his wife giving her time to accomplish her own goals and dreams. Here are some examples:
- Find a babysitter
- Encourage her to have a night out with her friends
- Schedule a spa day for her
- Make dinner twice a week
- Get the kids showered and put to bed
- Help the kids with their homework
By removing these and other items from her schedule, a husband sends his wife the message that her time is equally valuable and her dreams are just as important as his.
A large part of a woman’s thoughts is devoted to making sure her man is happy. But life can sometimes get in the way. The husband who makes spending time with his wife a priority communicates that the health of their relationship is just as important to him as it is to her. To invest in his wife’s spirit, he gives her some of the time he might want to give to football. Planning and taking her out on a date is not an afterthought but a desire. Initiating love making, not just a quickie, sends the message that his heart is still completely hers.
I know it may seem odd, but by willingly sharing his time, a husband reaffirms the love in their relationship and gives his wife the security she needs. She can then focus more easily on the other areas in her life that also bring her joy and help her blossom into the woman she longs to be.
Husbands, time is the one thing that wives willing give without a second thought. Whether your wife is a stay at home mom, a career driven woman, an entrepreneur, or all of the above, she will gladly give her time to make sure she meets as many needs as is humanly possible. By taking time, giving time, and sharing time, you help her invest the one thing she will invest in others but rarely in herself. And for that, she will be forever grateful.
BMWK, are you investing in your wife?