1. Where do I need to grow spiritually? None of us gets to a point of not needing to grow in our relationship with God. Ask yourself honestly, where do you need to grow in your understanding of God?
2. What needs to change about ME? In what ways does your perspective, attitude or approach need to change. At this point it doesn’t even matter what your spouse does or does not do, this is your time of change or self-improvement. Ask tough questions and let God give you tough answers.
3. How can I pray for my spouse? The hurt is real. But this is not about him or her. To be able to grow, start praying for your spouse. Our prayer is not for the things we see or know to be wrong about them. Rather, we pray for their peace, for their growth, for God to show them His plan for their life. Just pray for them and watch how God grows you.
4. Where do I see God at work in this? Remember what Grandma said, “What doesn’t kill you, will make you stronger”. It is easy to get excited about the things God does that make us smile and feel good. But, the tough stuff that He allows us to survive is for our good too! So, take a look, where do you see God’s hand in your life?
BMWK, are these principles you can put into action?