Let’s face it. Getting married is easy. It’s the staying happily married that can sometimes be challenging. What I’ve found is that sometimes we become comfortable and aren’t as diligent, as we were when we were dating, in trying to keep the harmony.
If you are feeling like your husband just doesn’t listen to you or doesn’t understand your needs, even when you voice them, then here are a few bad behaviors that may be preventing him from hearing you and taking you seriously.
Being a Brat
Easier said than done. My first reaction when I’m upset is, “Operation Silent Treatment”. It was like clockwork…you make me mad, I’m shutting down. But, I’ve gotten better. It’s perfectly fine to take a moment to get yourself together because cooler heads do prevail, but walking around pouting and not talking because you’re mad? OK, come on. How do you expect him to take you seriously if you’re behaving like a petulant child?
Being Manipulative
I read so many magazines, blogs and articles that tell single women to “play hard to get”, “make him chase you”, “hold out until you get your way”, etc. Well, if that worked for you, I guess that’s fine. But some of you don’t stop even after you both say, “I do.” Please cut it out!
There is no need to string your sweetie along or play mind games to get him to do something you want him to do. There’s a word for that. It’s called manipulation and if you have to result to that in your marriage, then there are bigger issues at hand.
Being Disrespectful
A man’s ego is astronomical. It’s no secret that the best way to cut your husband down is to shoot down his ego. Ladies, you know this. We ALL know this. So, tampering with this is below the belt. Don’t be fooled into thinking that it’s OK to turn your man into a mouse with your cruel, harsh and belittling words, even in the heat of the moment. Leave the tomfoolery and the antics for the reality shows. You need to stroke his ego. It will cost you nothing. It’s actually very rewarding for both of you.
Being Unsupportive
We all know the cliche, “Behind every great man is a wonderful and powerful woman.” Well, it’s true. When I met my husband, he was a young budding financial associate. Now, he is a well-respected key player in his organization, great husband and awesome father. I’m not taking credit, but someone in the relationship has to make sure he eats right, his appointments are made and that he knows the dates of the dance recital, basketball games and the church socials. Not to mention, someone to create a space for him as a refuge from the world that can toss and turn him and virtually leave him dead. Be there for your man.
Being Self-Centered
I’ll never forget the Ebony Magazine cartoon I saw about 20 years ago. A bride and groom were standing at the altar. The bride’s bubble over her head read, “Jackpot – $$$”. The groom’s bubble read, “Finally some help with these bills!” Basically, she looked at the union as a “jackpot” and he looked at it as gaining a help mate. While this type of thing needs to squared away during pre-marital counseling, you still need to do what you can to contribute to your relationship the best way you can, whether it’s financially or emotionally. You can’t always make withdrawals. But, you have to make some deposits, too!
BMWK – Do you have additional bad behaviors that have no place in a marriage?
You must work part-time or you’re a full time mom – because your statement is not feasible for a women who has a high powered career, married, has kids, and is a leader in her community – because while you’re doing all of this for him , who is making sure your needs are met – “but someone in the relationship has to make sure he eats right, his appointments are made and that he knows the dates of the dance recital, basketball games and the church socials. Not to mention, someone to create a space for him as a refuge from the world that can toss and turn him and virtually leave him dead. Be there for your man.”
Hi Anonymous,
Quite the contrary, I work full time and I’m a leader in my community. Civic organizations as well as national initiatives. For every appointment I put on his calendar, he is busy making sure my needs are met in other ways as his wife and mother to his children. I do it without thought and out of love. It’s second nature…it can be done. Thanks for the comment!
I agree. The way this works, is having a partner who understands that neither party in the relationship has to worry about their needs, because they are counting on the other side to meet them. That’s what marriage is all about. If you are married to someone who cannot fulfill what you need in the fullness of who you are, then you are VERY VERY likely married to the wrong person. That’s on you.
Thanks for sharing D. Holmes. You said it best. That’s what marriage is all about! You get it. 🙂 All the best, Sheree
I work full time as an executive director, travel frequently for my job, volunteer, active in my sorority, leader in my community, married and a mom to two kids and I have common sense to know how to make sure “I eat right, my appointments are made and I knows the dates of my kids dance recital, basketball games and the church socials. Not to mention, creating a space for myself as a refuge from the world that has tossed and turn me and virtually leave me distraught at times”. Men are not incompetent house pets that you have to do everything for, their human beings just like a women. Girl you just set women’s liberal back 100 years with this article.
I think you’ve missed the point. Everyone’s home works differently in the application of these points. These are types of behaviors that can be applied in any relationship. I can identify with the principle of being unsupportive, and being self-centered even though the writer says “…someone in the relationship has to make sure he eats right, his appointments are made and that he knows the dates of the dance recital, basketball games and the church socials…” Her advice looks different in every marriage. While I may not be a secretary or his cook, the underlying point is to communicate and demonstrate that you genuinely care about what’s happening in his life. I work FT, go to school, lead in my social organization as well. Good advice, various applications.
You are proof Dacia, that it can work. Not doing anything but reconciling the family’s BUSY calendar and keep us all one healthy unit. Thanks for the comment!
Hey Anonymous! Thanks for commenting. I’d like to think that my hubby has the common sense that you speak of and a far cry from an incompetent house pet. LOL It would be futile to try to explain exactly “how far”. Nonetheless, we are a team. Our duties as loving partners and dedicated parents are fluid and we make it work! Thanks again.
@ Sheree, no it sounds like “YOU” make it work not “WE”. I agree with what Anonymous is saying. You cannot put all the work on the woman and that’s what it sounds like you’re doing. What is there left for him to do? Oh, let me guess praise you for all that you do, right? Well, if that meets your need then go ahead. You mention nothing that he does for you because it’s probably small things that don’t compare to what you do for him. I guess some women are just happy to have a pulse laying next to them in the bed. Your article titles sounds like it’s geared towards couples I guess women are the only one that make a marraige work.
@Jeanette, thanks and your right, it sounds like the same to me because “SHE” makes it work and not “HIM”. There is no way my husband would stand by and let me do all those things she’s describing by myself and he not help me. Also, check out Christine St. Vil – response to my post,who is also a writer on this site. It’s hilarious, she stated that men’s needs are different from ours needs as women, but my husband said he didn’t see a difference between his needs and my needs, but I doubt she will respond because she is probably in a traditional domestic role also in her marriage also.
LOL @Anonymous 🙂 I’m cracking up laughing at these comments. I went back and read the post and I didn’t see mention of anything remotely related to “Women have been repressed to long for us to be seen as nothing but domestic servants and child bearers in 2014.”
But alas, we are all going to interpret things the way we want to interpret them regardless of what is being said. Sheree’s husband himself could write a post about what he does and your views wouldn’t change. No, I didn’t come back and comment because I actually don’t sit around waiting for responses/comments on articles. I love that you make so many assumptions about everyone’s situations after only reading a few words in an article (which Sheree mentioned earlier). You definitely don’t have to agree with anything or everything that we write on here, as it’s not for everyone. But we do appreciate you stopping by to read and share. If you want to know more about my “traditional domestic role” please feel free to stop by my other articles on this site or on my own site: http://www.momsncharge.com.
I wish you many blessings in your marriage and beyond! 🙂
@ Anonymous, we probably can’t fathom such nonsense because we have spouses who carry their weight. In my case, my husband carries his and then some. I read these articles from time to time, but most the time the takeaway is nothing unless it’s something written by a level-headed writer. What I have observed is that majority of the audience on this site are desperate, gullible women lookig for relationship advice.
I definitely think you missed the point of the article. No man or husband should be referred to or looked upon as an incompetent pet. But we have to understand that their needs are different from ours. While most of us are too busy focusing on our own needs, the needs of our husbands tend to get neglected…which leads to unhappy marriages. Being a director, having a high power job, and being a leader in your community shouldn’t replace your first priority as a wife. I completely agree with every point made in this article and I’ve been married almost 9 years, with my husband for 15 years. These are all things that I’ve learned along the way and continue to work on, but it’s made the world of difference in our relationship.
@ Christine St. Vil – What’s the difference between a man and a women needs? We both need to eat, we both need to pray, we both need to sleep, and we both need to work to keep our kids in the lifestyle their accustom too… So are you saying my husband isn’t happy and my marriage isn’t going to last because I don’t cook for him every night, make his appointments, pick his socks off the floor, keep him abreast on something as simple as a church function or “both” of our kids extracurricular activities, I would think my husband would care enough about his kids to have enough common sense to be there for his kids without me having to spell it out for him….. See I think what sets my husband apart from your husband is that he was raised by a “real” man and proactive mother,who I adore. They raised him to see a woman as a equal partner and not a domestic servant. My husband cooks, I wash the dishes – we both rotate on washing and folding the clothes, cleaning the house to “share” the responsibilities. My husband works in the IT Field so something as simple as adding a appointment to his smartphone is “pretty simple”. I have my “women cave” and he has his “man cave” which are our quiet places to go to when we need alone time in our home. Also, as far as maintenance to the inside and out side of our home, we contract out for that because we’re too busy to do that as a “team” ourselves. It looks like to me you may have married the wrong man, because if your husband has you taking care of the kid 100%, cleaning the house 100%, cooking every night 100% picking up after him, creating spaces of refuges for him, and working a full time jobs, and paying bills you’re no different from a domestic servant… As far as my incompetent pet statement goes, I made that statement because that’s what “we” do for our house pet who needs those things done. I mean seriously, what types of homes do you women come from, and who made you think that men are totally incapable of doing anything for themselves, who was doing these things for him before you met him………
My marriage is similar to yours, in that we share many of the household duties. But that doesn’t mean that I’m exempt from being there for my husband and doing things to make him happy. He does the same for me. We do things…ALL THINGS together as a team. As mentioned in the previous comments – every marriage is different. So if this doesn’t apply to yours (in terms of the issue of not being heard by your spouse, which is the heart of the article), that’s fine. No need to be so antagonistic with your responses. We all read and support BMWK to help us grow and become better spouses and create stronger families! Nice work with being honest and cutting through the fluff with your post, Sheree!
I understand that every marriage is different, but the author is describing the same repressed roles that women have been made to believe that they must perform in a marriage. You have to also realize that some married women reading this will be gullible enough to believe that this is what you must do to “take care of your man”. So maybe if the author states her ending of the article as ” this is how I take of my man” it will be a little more open to interpretation, instead of her “unknowing” leading women to believe that this is the role of a women in a marriage. As women, we are so much more…
Goodness… Is there a reason we can’t disagree without losing all sense of class and decorum? Insulting peoples families hardly seems called for.
It seems the entire point (and point of view) of the article is being missed here. Marriages are as unique as the individuals in them so what works for one may not work for another. These are simply examples of behaviors that have no place in a successful and loving marriage. Maybe her examples don’t resonate with you…they may have hit home for someone else.
Thanks Isys for commenting! You are so right. Marriages are as different as the people in them. I never looked at caring for my man as repressed”. So, if I’m understanding Anonymous, I guess his affection/attention towards me would mean that he’s “whipped” too, I’m guessing.
I don’t understand. You speak as if you two are business partners instead of lovers. Are you telling me you ave never done ANYTHING doting on your significant other because he/she has “Common sense” to know better?
No my marriage is not a business partner ship. It is an “equal team partnership” where both parties are not defined by the label that society has placed on us. Women have been repressed to long for us to be seen as nothing but domestic servants and child bearers in 2014.
Hi. While you’re doing all of that, have you ever wondered what your husband is doing while you’re away and not in that fashion…
Your kids are still alive when you get back home so obviously they are being fed and groomed, homework is done if they are old enough, the house hasn’t burned down, etc., meaning your husband can handle it on his own without you. Even though they are his kids also, do you ever stop and acknowledge him?
You are finding something negative about everything everyone had said. Biblically women are the HELPMATES regardless of whether you work or not. Not once have you mentioned any situation where you put the type of energy into your marriage than you do your outside life.
As far as just caring for your family, I would be quite sure if you had spent your time cooking and he walked in after work with a five guys bag, that would upset you. So be mindful of how you treat him because on here, in reading your words in my head, you sound like an angry woman who doesn’t want to be married.
Just my observation.
@ET – First off are you a man or women? This way I will know how to address you concerning your statement.
Marriage is work. All five will help a marriage, but the most important things in a marriage is to keep a friendship of best friends, keep others out of your marriage (no bodies business if you argue), always keep yourself up and clean, always keep it sexy on both parts, always date even if it is a movie at home, be willing to do things the other person like even if you don’t like it try it, and once a year take a vacation without kid, friends and family. If you can’t enjoy each other alone how will you last when you get old. NEVER CROSS THE BOUNDRIES OF THE OTHER WHATEVER IT IS…
Great comment Sugar3 and great advice!! We do our best to keep date night on the calendar even if we do fall asleep watching that movie! LOL Thanks!!!
Exactly, it’s not a one-way street. You can’t talk about the duties of one spouse without mentioning the other. There are no set rules for how you run your marraige, but all these “advice givers” seem to think they have the answers to having a successful marraige. There’s a blueprint laid out in the Bible, I believe it goes “the two shall become one”. Each married couple will work out the details in their own marriage. I would say stay off these sites listening to these folks writing articles with their “advice”. Get a godly mentor if you don’t have one, someone that you know and trust.
My parents have been married 44 years and watching their dynamics in their later years has been a blessing. This is all the teaching I need about marraige, not this “girl you should cook, girl you should clean, keep him on schedule stuff from women that have been married but a minute and try to apply this one-size-fits-all advice. The people that know best have less to say but their words are powerful.
And their actions speak even louder.
Thus further reasons why Women (especially Black women); have the highest obesity and heart disease rates. We’re the ones ALWAYS responsible for keeping HIM happy but NO ONE is looking out for us! #smh
Thanks for commenting Crissy! In so many ways, more than you could ever imagine, We take care of EACH OTHER. And we actually work out together, too. No obesity here. It works for us! Thanks again.
On the flip side how long would your husband’s list be on how he takes care of you? Would those be hard tasks? Things that reqiure take time to complete on a daily basis besides his job? Most things that husbands do for their wives pale in comparison to what their wives do for their husbands and families. Most women are greatful for scraps. And whoever commented about a wife being a helpmeet you are correct in that a woman’s supposed to “HELP” her husband not do it “ALL. If anything the should fall on his broad shoulders.
*grateful
@Jeanette – Trust me, I’ve tried to interject my opinion in this post and it falls on deaf ears, I’ve been told I’m not taking care of my husbands needs, I’m a hater, and I should put my work as a executive director in my women advocacy work to the side so I can put all my energy into him. So, Basically I interpreted the same thing you got out of this post. She’s in a “traditional role” and so are “a lot” of these women writers on this site “but not all”. Their cooking 100%, cleaning100%, taking care of the kids 100%, etc…. and in this women’s case he’s paying the bills, she just don’t want to admit it ‘because of her statement, “he take care of me as his wife and the mother of his children”….. Since I do support this site, and recommend post to my friends and family, I would like to see more women writers in more non traditional roles, instead of submit to him, take care of his needs, and be his everything….
Thanks for continuing to support the site and taking the time to express your opinions about my article. I directed this to you in another reply, but I’ll copy it here as well:
What would the conversation be like if I said that my husband was terminally ill or physically immobile? Would that change things? He’s not. But the point is, you can’t be so quick to judge the logistics and the functionality of a marriage because of my contribution to this site in 350 words or less…I also notice that “reconciling our family calendar” got more attention than point I was to make. This was my POV about things that I can relate to, and that’s all I have. We should be happy and celebrate differences not berate them. Again, thanks for being here! Anonymous!
Hey Jeanette! Thanks for commenting! It’s a sad state of affairs when it’s ok to think that we’re grateful for scraps or that my husband’s list is shorter than mine and anyway, why are we even keeping score?? 🙂 You remind me that I’ve hit the jackpot because he’s definitely one to hold his weight.
Question for you and Anonymous….What would the conversation be like if I said that my husband was terminally ill or physically immobile? Would that change things? He’s not. But the point is, you can’t be so quick to judge the logistics and the functionality of a marriage because of my contribution to this site in 350 words or less…I also notice that “reconciling our family calendar” got more attention than point I was to make. This was my POV about things that I can relate to, and that’s all I have. Again, thanks for being here.
@ Sheree, you’re welcome. I didn’t say “I” was grateful for scraps. My husbands does way more for me than I do for him and I know that and I can say that without guilt. In fact, listening to women like you makes me appreciate him that much more. You see we don’t live by prescribed rules, that’s what makes our marraige strong. His parents have been married for 46 and mine 44. We come from stability. Now our marraige does not mirror our parents but they laid the foundation for us and not the world. Still you haven’t listed one thing that your husbands does for you, but don’t worry about it cause it’s none of my business anyway, right?
Hi Crissy,
I’m not quite sure how taking care of your husband leads to high obesity or heart disease. Yes, we (especially black women) are caretakers and work hard to keep our husbands happy, but it’s often reciprocated. In many marriages, there is someone looking out for us: our husbands. It’s give and take. I fully believe if Sheree’s husband were to write his take, he’d tell us all the great things he does to take care of her as well, including eating right with her and if not exercising together than at the very least supporting her when she’s working out.
Sheree,
This is such a great article! I’ve learned that, unfortunately, we’ve lost the understanding of what a real marriage is which is a PARTNERSHIP. In a partnership, both the husband and the wife are helpmates for each other. When you meet your partner’s needs—emotionally, physically, spiritually, etc.—they are usually more than happy to meet yours. But this also requires understanding that men and women are very different in how we communicate. Watching my parents make it to their 48th year of marriage has verified everything you’ve written here. All great points. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks Julian! LOVE LOVE LOVE your insight. He makes it easy for me to be a better me! Heck, I’m working, I’m blogging, I’m growing…Girl, I’m fulfilling my dreams and he’s supporting me every step of the way. No 2 marriages are created the same.
@ Julian, congratulations to your parents on 48 years of marriage and for setting an example for you (and your siblings, if you have them) so you didn’t have to be ill-advised by the world. That is truly a blessing!
This is an awesome post and I totally agree. I see nothing wrong whatsoever in working hard to meet your husbands needs and being a good wife. It doesn’t mean that he is doing nothing to meet your needs. It means that you aware and attentive to your marriage. Whats wrong with that? Why do people have to criticize to disagree?
Exactly The SistahChick. I’m trying to do this ONLY ONCE! Our crazy family calendar is nothing compared to the teamwork we put in together to make the dream work! Thanks for your comment.
Great article and great points. I believe too many times in marriage we focus so much on tit for tat that we forget to just serve and be selfless. We take vows and get married just to make everything else more important than what we vowed to. We spend so much time saying “well what about me” that we never ask “well what about we.” Men and women both have to reciprocate efforts but there are some things and needs that we both need from each other. If she helps take care of his food and some appointments that doesn’t mean he is incompetent it just means she cares enough to do so. These days we all wear many hats but the one most often taken for granted the most is the one of husband or wife. We need to live lives that are conducive to making sure our marriages thrive for the sake of our families, instead of focusing on the things that make our ego’s thrive. Just my thoughts!
Ahhh….Troy. A male’s perspective and I LOVE IT!!! I could’ve sworn marriage wasn’t about me me me…but we we we…Too bad people are focusing so hard one thing I said and missing the point. Thanks for commenting!
Of course Troy would agree…why would he not?
I enjoyed the article. This is my first time reading any of your articles. You must be on to something because the haters are coming out!
They are out aren’t they? Thanks so much for being here. 🙂
@ Adam, people are haters for having a difference of opinion? Because all that was wrote in this article are just that – opinions. I didn’t see the clause that stated “Only those who agree leave comments”. Your statement is so lame, please come with something stronger.
Wow,this is so helpfull and. Encouraging.please keep it up
Thanks so much for the kind words!
Me and my husband are newly weds and I found myself underappreciating him and sayin me me me as if I was preparing for an opera performance. Lol. But I reached out online and through prayer. I needed help recognizing alot of things and your blogs are definitely blessings. Anonymous sounds like I was acting not too long ago. My husband was at his wits end bc I withdrew almost completely and started to forget why I married him in the first place. I was taking score and treating my marriage like a game. I almost lost my family bc I was so bitter and refuse to share the reins. Im so thankful that I came to my senses. Thank u Jesus, he stood by me n constantly told me that he loves me and will do anything to make it work. While is was like, “I dont want to even try”. But he prayed so hard n so long that I joined him in prayer and WALLA, IM BACK IN BUSINESS. better than before and from now on, I will use your site as a reference when I need encouragement. Nothings perfect, nothin good comes easy, and making your marriage the top priority under God, is a MUST. I vow to be the best wife I can be and give 100 %
Me and my husband are newly weds and I found myself underappreciating him and sayin me me me as if I was preparing for an opera performance. Lol. But I reached out online and through prayer. I needed help recognizing alot of things and your blogs are definitely blessings. Anonymous sounds like I was acting not too long ago. My husband was at his wits end bc I withdrew almost completely and started to forget why I married him in the first place. I was taking score and treating my marriage like a game. I almost lost my family bc I was so bitter and refuse to share the reins. Im so thankful that I came to my senses. Thank u Jesus, he stood by me n constantly told me that he loves me and will do anything to make it work. While is was like, “I dont want to even try”. But he prayed so hard n so long that I joined him in prayer and WALLA, IM BACK IN BUSINESS. better than before and from now on, I will use your site as a reference when I need encouragement. Nothings perfect, nothin good comes easy, and making your marriage the top priority under God, is a MUST. I vow to be the best wife I can be and give 100 %
Yessss! I love it tlaws! You caught yourself being human..it happens. So happy to hear your success story. Thanks for sharing it with us. I’m sure it’s a blessing for others who read it.
This article is very one-sided — marriage is a two way street. I have been married for ten years (and come from a long line of married folks) and we have had our share of ups and downs and trust me we both played our part in them. There is a dearth of positive images about black men and women in the media so I make it my business to try and support positive media like BMWK. However it seems that a lot of the articles on this site are steeped in old-school patriarchy. The old stance that, “it’s all the woman’s fault” is tired.
Thanks Meena for commenting. Sorry that my point of view got misconstrued as its all a woman’s fault. Not the intention. I agree with you and live by the principles 100% that marriage is a 2 way street. Thanks again!
@ Meena, EXACTLY! Majority of these articles are very lop-sided. They pretty much all say the same old thing…women are responsible for the success of their marriage and men can do whatever they want…ok, maybe not whatever they want, but they sure as hell don’t need to contribute much. What kills me is how they will quote the Bible and then put their own twist on it. No different from the fundamentalist Christian s who are trying to get women back into submission. Not against submission, but it must be done in a godly way, by both husband and wife. Gladly, there are women with sense enough to not listen to the advice in these types of articles.
A lot of this is “old school fool” advice. What next are you going to tell women that half a man is better than having no man at all? And I’m so glad I’m not married to a man who’s ego is “astronomical” but a humble man who has a godly character.
Ultimately each person has to make there marriage work for them. If what one person does in there marriage does not work for you so what you are not married to them. Respect, Respect, Respect is what is important. We can all say alot of things. However only you and your spouse know what goes down behind closed doors. Blessing. Great Article My Sister.
I didnt take this article to mean that the wife must do all for her husband and he do nothing. Others have said it but I think it needs to be said again EVERY MARRIAGE/RELATIONASHIP IS DIFFERENT, but the one thing that should be the same is that its a partnership, one hand washes the other.
Anonymous why do you continue to visit the site and read the articles if they are no use to you? Its perfectly okay to unsubscribe.
Now I personally can accept the advice for what it is because i fall under a couple of the issues listed above.
Thanks.
I know I am 3.5 months late vis-a-vis this article turned discussion (LOL ) but thought i should share what I got from the article. Silent treatment, Being disrespectful,Being manipulative,Being unsupportive and finally Being self centered DOES NOT HELP ANY MARRIAGE. I read this and it reminded me of 1ST Corinthians 13:4-7 ( Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres).
In my Opinion, Shree went ahead to explain the 5 vices the best way she knew how. I am sure if it was her husband writing to men, he would have explained it in his own way using his family as an example (In other words, how long her husbands list is, or what her husband does or does not do would not apply in the context of her article). It is just like reading a verse in the bible, we all interpret it differently depending on what God wants to teach us at that particular time.
I am an African woman, Kenyan by nationality and I have never set foot outside East Africa….yet this article does not make me think that a marriage is only successful when the woman is in the kitchen and giving birth while her husband is sited looking all powerful and happy to be served! Even my 90 something old grandmother now a widow for 3yrs does not think that a woman’s place is in the kitchen and the labor ward. That is my understanding of the article.
Write more, thats all I have to say. Literally, it seems as though
you relied on the video to make your point.
You obviously know what youre talking about, why throw away your intelligence on just posting videos to your blog when you could be giving us something enlightening
to read?
Terrific Posting. I’ve been preaching this for a long
time but no one has wanted to listen. I am merely happy I’m not really
the only one and there are some others on my side. Thank you so much!