This article is the “other side” to the article – 5 REASONS HIS WIFE ISN’T GETTING ANY.
Men will always want sex. A husband would never consistently reject his wife’s sexual desires. Women are the only ones that lose sexual interest after marriage…That’s what you think!
As much as society talks about the “poor husband” crying out for some sexual healing, there are wives who are in the same boat. It isn’t something most women would want to announce for various reasons, but the issue is real and needs to be addressed. So what could possibly cause a husband to not sleep with his wife? Click through the pages below to 5 reasons.
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My goodness ladies, the offense taken at this article is pretty steep. There’s an entire separate article to address the things the husband may be doing which leads to him not getting any. I haven’t read it yet, but honesty is honesty. Some women wouldn’t put up with some of the things they do to their men. Sometimes we need to sit there, forcefully even, and examine what’s in the mirror. None of these things listed are lies. And there are more reasons not listed, i.e. as mentioned in the article, erectile dysfunction. Maybe I’ll read the other, vice versa article and see if there is bias, but geez it’s about his
needs being addressed, met and fulfilled. It ain’t about what makes us happy this go round. And it’s not always about us.
Also, this is probably the reason why the other article of why the husband is not getting any was possibly written first. As an author, I would know that women would be lined up ready to aim, shoot and fire if I pointed out problems she may be bringing to the relationship. I’d be thinking, let me do the bad stuff about men first so they don’t have a hissy fit and verbally terrorize me for bashing them too much, which is really NOT what this article does.
Thank you Jamie : ). I’m glad to see you fully understand the purpose of this article and that it is not intended to be an attack on women. Hopefully we can all learn to be more open minded when we are told things that encourage us to look at ourselves in the mirror. We can’t become better people if we never think we have anything to improve upon.
As far as the weight thing goes, I get it. I don’t like overweight men at all (add to that, bad teeth and poor grooming). No matter how nice he is, I’m simply not attracted to it and can’t imagine how much wine that would take. I also have similar medical condition; however, mine comes out with boring guys who can only talk about work, their possessions, and have no interests beyond flirting and sex. I can’t imagine what it would be like to marry someone who annoys you or whose company you don’t enjoy.
I’m glad to see you can be open minded about what is being said in this article. You have men who don’t want to accept that they emotionally neglect their wives, and women who don’t want to take any accountability in the sexual neglect that occurs in their marriage. At some point we have to face our reality no matter how tough of a pill it is to swallow.
This is very well writtin and informative! This not only allows wives to self evaluate, it also tasks men to do the same. If any of these reasons are hendering you from being a participant in sexual activity then you need to have a heart to heart with your wife and express yourself. To many men internalize their feelings and do not share their emotions with their mate.
I agree this is not an attack, its a chance to have open dialouge about real situations that plague marriages.
Good Job Brother…
Women! Look after your bodies even though you are married and settled. Men like beautiful and sexy women to get aroused sexually. Love is there but let’s face reality. Remember how you were when he proposed marriage to you and look at yourself now…
Sometimes it’s simply the man wants to be else where. I had a man that no matter what just didn’t want to be committed. It had nothing to do with me. He was just not able to perform because he was performing for other ladies outside the marriage. It must be said that sometimes it has nothing to do with the wife. No matter how sexy, how nice, how accommodating some men never satisfied at home. But God is good and he will bring you a good man that is. 🙂
This article is not jut about body image. There are many other reasons for man not to want to have sex.Such as the medical conditions and a wife who makes her husband feel inadequate. Women dont want to have sex with a man who treats her like crap and men feel the same way. I know my husband and I don’t have sex all the time but we have a great relationship and deeper intimacy because we treat each other well and talk about any issues in the bedroom up front. We build each other up and support each other until the issue is solved. Rather than point fingers….make healthy goals you can work towards together.
I have experienced this in my marriage. I completely internalized his issue and made it about me. I was miserable for more than a year thinking that my extra ten pounds had turned him off, or that maybe I had gotten boring, or something, ANYTHING. He had to tell me like fifteen times that it wasn’t me at all, that he was battling with his own issues of depression, doubt, and self-worth. On some level that was relieving because I didn’t have to bear the responsibility, but on another level that made it worse because fixing THAT is much harder than just losing ten pounds or learning a new move or buying lingerie. I also had to acknowledge that I was equating the frequency of sex with the depth of love and these two things are not the same at all. This relationship has taught me to be intimate with my husband in ways that don’t involve intercourse. And while I know that our marriage has the foundation to survive this and anything, I still sometimes wish we were rolling around in the hay a bit more often. 🙂
Okay but let’s be honest….women “letting themselves go” is usually in part due to multiple pregnancies. It’s not like women just start eating a bunch after marriage, typically they are having children, sometimes close together which makes it harder to lose weight. I realize some women never lose the baby weight, but many do, however their men think it should come off over night…..All I’m saying is that in some instances a little love and respect for the process of birthing your children and the time that it takes to emotionally and physically heal from that process should be taken into consideration. Now if women just want to neglect their bodies indefinitely, then that is on them…..