I am very happily married, but our entire marriage has been built on a lie since I have been keeping a few secrets.
Now did you believe that for one second? I sure didn’t, because strong, healthy, happy marriages are not built on lies and secrets. Marriages that are truly happy—the kind that last—are built on open and honest communication. Keeping secrets rarely serves anyone well, and eventually the truth comes out (and in a pretty ugly way).
But even with that knowledge, so many people keep secrets from their spouses. Maybe the secret seems harmless, and revealing the truth is too much to deal with. Or maybe someone is scared letting the cat out the bag will cause a shift that may permanently damage his or her relationship.
Secrets cause problems, though. They damage trust and leave people feeling disconnected and hurt. And as harmless as some secrets may seem, it wouldn’t be a secret if the potential to damage your relationship didn’t seem very real to you. Secrets exist because of shame or fear.
Whether big or small, we all need to think twice about the secrets we keep from the person we vowed to love, honor, and respect. Although revealing your secret may terrify you, the damage your secret can cause if it’s uncovered before you have the opportunity to say something may be irreparable.
Here are 5 secrets that could potentially destroy your marriage if you continue to keep them: