The stages of relationships when doing it God’s way has many different components, but based off how God led me when pursuing my wife is how I will set out each stage. Here is a quick guide into the 5 stages of a relationship when God is in the center of it.

1. Friendship Stage

The friendship stage can vary across the boards due to its different contexts.  For example, with Natasha and I, we were friends on Facebook for years but didn’t even know it.  I know many stories of people who meet at the church they’ve been attending together for years, but had never seen one another in person. The friendship stage is crucial because you honestly shouldn’t be married if you aren’t able to be friends.  The best marriages are the ones with the best friendship.  The friendship stage shouldn’t include anything but that.  Our generation has really begun to play around with the world’s mentality of friend’s with benefits.

2. Interest Stage

The interest stage is where you accept you are interested in someone, but now need to find a way to see if they are interested in you. This is the stage most get STUCK in. You see a young lady who is very attractive to you, loves Jesus, and is single.  Boom…you are interested.  You’re friends with a good looking guy, who is committed to Christ, and he has a job!  Boom…you’re interested.

The interest stage is very difficult because, it is here that some guys don’t communicate to the girl that they are interested right away, and then some do. I know with Natasha, I was interested in her for a few months before I messaged her for the first time. My first message was not, “Hey I’m interested in you”, but more, “Hey, do we know each other?” Lol. Yes, I was very nervous at first. It took months before I got the courage to ask her if we could get to know one another better.  In the interest stage, you have to trust God for the guy to take the next step to communicate he is interested. Guys don’t wait for a girl to tell you she is interested. You do it!