In my coaching practice I am usually quick to highlight the actions a couple should take in order to maintain the joy and peace in their relationship. Also equally important is reminding both partners of the things they actually don’t have to do, that they may have assumed were necessary for their marriage.
When we marry we sometimes think we have to be our spouse’s everything. We feel as though our life stops in order for this new life to begin. Both thoughts are incorrect. Couples sometimes bring unrealistic ideas as well as expectations into this sacred partnership and then are confused as to why the relationship fails. We have to be aware of our own personal limitations and realize we don’t possess supernatural powers. We can’t heal, save or change another person. We can however, love, support and share our lives with our spouses. In order to create more healthy unions, we must remember the 5 things we are not required to do in our marriage.