When you’ve been with someone for a while, it can be harder to make sure your dates have that “Wow!” factor. Sure, you enjoy spending time together no matter what you do, but sometimes you want a date that doesn’t feel like the last date you went on, or the one before that.
I’m not ashamed to admit that my husband and I found ourselves in a rut recently. We were going to the same ol’ restaurant, ordering the same ol’ meals, talking about the same ol’ topics. I still enjoyed hanging out with him, but I knew we had to do something to shake things up. Here’s a few suggestions for you, if you found yourself in a rut recently as well:
1) Indulge your sweet tooth
How many times have you been out to dinner and you get stuffed after the main course and don’t even think about ordering dessert? Next time you have the opportunity for a date night, go to a restaurant and split a couple appetizers. Hopefully you won’t be too full and you can swing by a local bakery for a small dessert.
2) Dinner first then the movie
I can’t tell you how many times we’ve gone to dinner and then had plans to go see a movie, but the itis kicked in and we didn’t make it to the 10 p.m. showing because I knew I’d be sleep by 10:15. Go see the movie first and then grab a late dinner.
3) “We should go there one day”
I think we all have that one restaurant or lounge that we drive by all the time or we hear so many good things about, and we say, “We should go there on our next date.” But then we end up going to the same ol’ tried-and-true restaurant. Call ahead and make that reservation or plug the address into your GPS so you already know how to get there. Who knows””you might discover your next favorite place.
4) Meet for lunch
Get away from the office if you can and meet your honey for a midday powwow. Enjoy seeing each other while it’s still light out (and enjoy the cheaper food too!).
5) Clear your schedule
Back in the day, it used to take me at least an hour to get ready. I had to shower, shave my legs, pick out the perfect outfit, fix my hair, do my face, find my “cute” purse, switch shoes about four or five times, and then put on my favorite perfume to seal the deal. But now, we’re usually running out the door in about 10 minutes tops. Take the time to prepare for the date. Ladies, toss on those heels that you retired once the kids were born, or throw on a dress if you normally wear jeans. Fellas, shave that stubble and put on her favorite cologne.
6) Be naughty first
So many date culminate in a night of hot, sweaty passion, but why not kick off the date with a roll in the sack? *Wink*
What tips do you have to spice up date night? We’re all ears!
AP says
1. Compliment your spouse.
2. No complaining.
3. Have some funny stories or jokes to share.
4. Smile.
5. Ladies, get some rubs and caresses in here and there.
6. WAIT, for him to open the door for you, it let’s otehrs know ya’ll mean business and it reminds him that you need him and appreciate his gentlemanly gestures. GOes for opening doors too.
7. No TEXTING your friends during your date. Only answer if it isthe babysitter, etc.
That’s enough for now, lol!
staycee2 says
My husband of 5 years & I did the naughty first before going out to dinner for my birthday and we couldn’t stop smiling at each other, he even requested the private room for us to enjoy our dinner. ILUVMESUMHIM!!!!!! I love this website, keep up the good work ! Thanks for a great article/list!!!
Veronica Sott92 says
Love it…
Desiree says
I like #4 to add a little variety and remind you of when you were dating and couldn’t wait to spend every moment you could together. I may just call hubby now for a lunch date 😉 -Desiree http://www.thelovejourney.com
laketarenal says
very good points. to keep a marriage fresh and exciting it’s really important to “check in” with one another regularly. compliments are definitely important. the same things that attracted you to your love should be the same things keeping you with him/her. always keep each other smiling. laughter is so important so that we don’t take the downs too seriously. switching up venues, lunch in the middle of the day are really good ideas. and the naughty before leaving for the date (maybe even on the way) are key 🙂 sometimes calling sometimes thru out the day to say baby i really love you and i’m so glad your mine…