“The same things you did to get her you need to do to keep her!”
You hear people say this all of the time. And while it’s true, it’s not always as easy as one may think. The truth is that sometimes after the lust and infatuation fades and familiarity kicks in, we can become less conscious of the little things! It’s not necessarily that we don’t care or we don’t love you anymore, it’s just that we get comfortable. Sometimes, as men, we just need a reminder and maybe this can serve as one! Here are a few things that your your woman may just love for you to start doing again!
1. Take Initiative
Remember when you were trying to get her, you took the lead. You planned the dates, you opened the doors, you made sure her car was washed and yard taken care of. Now suddenly, you’ve gotten comfortable and instead of planning anything you get stuck saying the infamous words “so what do you wanna do?”
Try This: The next time y’all are making time to spend together, instead of asking “so what you wanna do” say “so this is what we’re going to do.” Plan the date or getaway and ask her to just SHOW UP. She will appreciate the effort and she will find the leadership sexy. Oh and P.S. On the home front, start paying attention to some of the things that need to be done and anticipate some of those needs. Don’t ask…JUST DO IT!
2. Turn Up the Spontaneity
She loves the element of surprise, so ask yourself when is the last time you gave that to her. As we get older, everything tends to have more structure. But sometimes, she just wants you to forget the structure and just go with the flow!! Sometimes she wants to be taken off guard instead of having to follow the plan. This includes sexually!
Try This: Mid Week date night or an excursion are a wonderful way to break up the monotony, but not the same old structured or planned date night. Try something completely random. Pull out a nice outfit for her and when she gets home tell her to put it on. Plan a date or something nice and if you really want to turn it up pack her a bag and get a hotel room for one night. After the date is over arrive, at the hotel and now you may also get to have some of that spontaneous sex as well!
Christine J says
you forgot to chase her – to make her feel like she is valuable and a part of the team and for as much as they don’t want to, TALK to her, openly and honestly – don’t make her feel like she has to pull teeth to talk to her
Troy Spry says
Great additions Christine! Thanks so much for reading!