3. Get Your Sexy & Swag Back
When you were trying to impress her, you put on your best clothes, made sure your hair was cut, and your cologne game was ON POINT! Now suddenly, all she sees you in is wife beaters, basketball shorts and under wear and socks with holes in them. And to make it worse, all you ever smell like is Brut and Old Spice.
Try This: At least one day on the weekends, put on some real clothes. Also take her on a mall run with you to buy some new socks, and underwear, and go cologne shopping with her and let her pick out something that she thinks smells sexy on you! Oh and if that beer gut is getting too big, join a gym…she may like that post workout man smell as well.
4. Remember the Little Things
Remember you made sure you knew what all of her favorite things were and you made sure she knew how in tune you were with her. Remember the hand written notes and letters that now have turned into informal texts or email. Remember how you used to make sure to tell her how beautiful she was, and you kissed her every chance you could get. Now you don’t even notice that she changed her hair or bought a new outfit and now sometimes days go by when you don’t kiss or touch her.
Try This: Create a week of favorites for her. For seven days write a hand written note and leave it somewhere for her to find along with a favorite of hers (candy, tea, drink, book, movie…) Whatever it is, it will let her know that you are still paying attention. Secondly, make it a point to kiss her for 30 days straight, every day in the morning, when y’all get home, and before bed…until it becomes a habit again. Be sure to slip her some tongue from time to time too (if she is into that! HA)
Men sometimes we just have to be conscious of doing the things we used to do that our ladies loved so much! Oh and before you say “well what about the things she doesn’t do anymore,” just know that you can only control yourself and once you start doing the little things you will be surprised at how it may just start to be reciprocated! Be conscious & go back to the basics!
Christine J says
you forgot to chase her – to make her feel like she is valuable and a part of the team and for as much as they don’t want to, TALK to her, openly and honestly – don’t make her feel like she has to pull teeth to talk to her
Troy Spry says
Great additions Christine! Thanks so much for reading!