With Mother’s Day right around the corner, it’s time to think about honoring that special woman in your life—your wife. Women express their mothering instincts in a variety of different ways, so honor those instincts with a little variety of your own.
Below are five new, fun and sexy ways to specifically honor your wife. Inspired by one of my all-time favorites, Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages, my list of creative gift ideas is dedicated specifically for lovers. Chapman believes that people express love in five distinct ways; by giving gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service and devotion and lastly, physical touch and intimacy (ooh la la). So I’ve provided a list based on these ways to express your love, plus, I’ve added specific examples and suggestions on how to carry them out.
New Way #1: Outside-the-Box Gifts
There are two ways to give gifts. You either give something that you want the woman in your life to have or you give her something she wants. People are so accustomed to the traditional efforts of giving flowers and candy on Mother’s Day, which is fine. She’s still going to be pleased.
However, this is the time to give her exactly what she wants. It’s going to take a little bit of effort to find out what precisely that may be. So dig deep into your memory banks and replay prior conversations to look for hints to see what she might like. Give items that remind her of her childhood, such as a remastered CD of an album she used to love as a child. Or give her the things she says she’s always wanted, such as that kitchen appliance she keeps saying she needs but never gets.
Or give her a gift that leads to more… Buy her some “old fashioned” board games that leave lots of room for conversation and intimate eye contact. Invite some friends and make it a couple’s night. Make sure you’re on the same honoring woman page.
- Choose games that allow you to tell stories. There are several on the market. Make sure you develop every story to focus on honoring the woman in your life.
- If it’s just the two of you, you can choose a sexy adult game. Make sure she wins all of the good prizes (don’t forget to PLAN the prizes & pick them up).
- Go super old school and play spin the bottle. Only tell a favorite memory that honors your wife before an article of clothing comes off.
New Way #2 Quality Time
Whether for your mother or for your wife, quality time is such a great but often an overlooked gift. Spend hours with her at a café talking about good times. Take her shopping. Take an exercise class with her or a painting class (they are all over Groupon – hint hint).
Since we’re talking about Love Languages, plan your quality time with your wife on a journey through the three romance languages:
- Spanish – Enjoy some shopping in your city’s Spanish district or some sexy bolero music or Latin dance lessons.
- French – Have a night out at a French restaurant with a bottle of French wine for your dinner.
- Italian – Visit an Italian pastry shop or buy some decadent Italian desserts for your dinner at home.
- If you know a little (or a lot) of any of these languages, whisper sweet something’s in her ear in that language. Learn at least one phrase or one word (if nothing else, it is the effort that counts).
New Way #3 Words of Affirmation
Words are powerful. On this very special day, express your love. I suggests capturing the below in writing and/or video. This will also act as a cherished keepsake for them for years to come.
- Praise her ideas and creativity that differentiate her as a mom.
- Tell her how especially beautiful she looks in that dress or outfit.
- Tell her how yummy her cooking is and/or all the things you appreciate about her.
New Way #4 Acts of Service and Devotion
This gift is all about DOING, so do the things she hates to do. Wash the dishes AND clothes—don’t forget to fold them and put them away too. Have a puppy or dog? Pick up the dog poop in the back yard.
Take your service a bit further by doing things she’d normally never think to ask you. Spend an entire evening reading to her over wine and dessert. Being read to is a secret pleasure that many women enjoy.
- Read a story she loved as a child.
- Spice things up by reading some erotic poetry.
- If you don’t like to read out loud, simply purchase an audio book of poetry and listen to it together over beverages and thoughtful snacks (remember it is what she likes).
New Way #5 Physical Touch and Intimacy
Obviously, these gifts are not for your mother but rather the mother of your child, so this gift idea shouldn’t be surprising. Devote your evening in the bedroom entirely to her wants, no matter what they may be. Rub her feet until she falls asleep. Massage her stress areas with her favorite lotion.
Create a sexy scavenger or treasure hunt in which you place small thoughtful gifts for her in several areas. Make sure each location you choose has a special memory. If you haven’t been in your home long, you can place pictures that closely resemble the memories you wish to evoke. Memories could be:
- Remember your first kiss.
- Where you first made love.
- When you first knew you were in love with her.
- Where you conceived your first child.
No matter how you choose to honor the woman in your life, take some time to observe her. Then, express your love to her with words and actions. When you “speak her language,” your relationship will become deeper and more loving.
HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!
BMWK, fellas what other nontraditional ways do you show your wife love on Mother’s Day?
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