Emotional intimacy is how close you feel emotionally to your spouse. It speaks to the type of connection that you share with one another, the non-sexual affection that you show, and how you communicate, openly and honestly. In its simplest terms, emotional intimacy speaks to the friendship that you share with your husband or your wife. 10 Ways to Reclaim Your Time and … [Read more...]
6 Ways to Strengthen Assertive Communication in Your Marriage
It would take an entire book in itself to touch on every different communication style. If you Google different communication personality types, you’ll find a range of categories you can fall into that vary based on the system used or who came up with it. However, there are a few things that affect assertive communication in your marriage. They can also influence your … [Read more...]
3 of the Biggest Threats to Intimacy and How to Overcome Them
Through our actions every day, we are either working to build the closeness and intimacy we share with our spouses or we are building a wall between it. Don’t be fooled—intimacy has enemies! Here are some of the biggest threats to intimacy and what we can do to tear down those walls standing between us and the ones we love. 3 of the Biggest Threats to Intimacy and How to … [Read more...]
5 Practical Steps For Improving Sexual Intimacy
Have you ever been there? You bought the lingerie, the candles, or the flowers. You did all of the things you were supposed to do to spice up your sex life with your spouse. For you, improving sexual intimacy is a priority and this will most definitely give us back that intimacy that we’ve been missing, you thought. But after you did everything you were supposed to do, somehow … [Read more...]
5 Key Ingredients to Creating Electrifying Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage
Emotional intimacy is how close you feel emotionally to your spouse. It speaks to the type of connection that you share with one another, the non-sexual affection that you show, and how you communicate, openly and honestly. In its simplest terms, emotional intimacy speaks to the friendship that you share with your husband or your wife. Here are four key ingredients to creating … [Read more...]
The 3 Types Of Intimacy Every Marriage Needs To Thrive
What is intimacy? When we look at the true definition, everything surrounding intimacy deals with closeness to another person: closeness of contact, friendship, warmth, and familiarity. What Is Intimacy | All Your Questions Answered In this article: The Bond Holding Marriage Together Type 1: Sexual Intimacy Type 2: Emotional Intimacy Type 3: Spiritual … [Read more...]
Here’s What it Really Means to Be Intimate in Marriage
If you'd like to know how to increase the intimacy in your relationships, let’s begin with a simple definition. Webster’s Dictionary defines the word “intimate” as follows: 1. belonging to or characterizing one's deepest nature 2. marked by very close association, contact, or familiarity 3. marked by a warm friendship developing through long association 4. suggesting informal … [Read more...]
3 Vital Pieces to Restoring Intimacy When All Else Fails
You’ve done it all. The date nights, the back rubs, the conversations. You’ve transformed your bedroom into a sensual sanctuary. You’ve done all you can to be warm and caring and loving and taken all the practical steps to improve your intimacy with your spouse and somehow, something is still missing. That intimacy is not there. You still have not been able to find … [Read more...]
When Should a Married Couple Seek Help for Their Communication Problems?
Sex, money, and communication: We often hear about these as the “big three” behind marital conflicts and failures. Sex is the one we talk about most often, with problems in the bedroom and infidelity being at the center of most discussions about marital problems. Money is a distant, but growing, second. Financial infidelity is an increasingly important topic. Men and women are … [Read more...]
The One Thing You MUST Have If You Want Good Communication with Your Spouse… No Exceptions
There is one thing that needs to be present before you can even begin having or improving communication with your spouse - honesty. And not only do you have to be honest, but you also have to be honest often. Do just one or the other, or none at all, and you risk constructing your communication on shaky ground. Let me explain. Honesty is a must! Honesty is very bottom rung on … [Read more...]
Do You Have an In Case of Emergency Contact List for Marriage Support?
Conflict arises in marriage. And when that happens, it's natural to need an ear or a shoulder sometimes. We need our moments to vent and to get some helpful feedback. But we need to be careful that those we're allowing into our marriage aren't doing more harm than good with their advice, or lack thereof. Be sure that you're talking about your marriage with the right people by … [Read more...]
Your Man or Your Plan? Should Love Trump Career?
Should Love Trump Career? The answer to this question is yes. And no. Let me explain. You might be looking for me to give you a warm and fuzzy response like “follow your heart” or “love will make a way!” But I’m not going to give you that. You might be looking for me to give you an answer like “girl, get yo money! You don’t need a man.” I’m not going to give you … [Read more...]
Snip! Snip! Snip! 3 Fear Free Reasons Why Husbands Should Get a Vasectomy
BMWK family, I don’t always get personal about my marriage because as much as possible I try to write while keeping our business out of the street. However, today I need to speak on a debate that has been simmering in my home: my husband’s vasectomy, or more accurately, the vasectomy that he refuses to get. Now, in actuality, he has never openly refused. He agreed to it … [Read more...]
5 Reasons Your Woman is Tired of You and You Don’t Even Realize It
"Happy Wife, Happy Life!" Last week, the post 5 Reasons Your Man Is Tired of You and You Don’t Even Realize It ran on BMWK and began with those words; but it doesn't address the heart of what those words really mean. “Happy Wife, Happy Life” does not mean that a wife’s needs always take precedence over her husband’s. The saying means that a woman who is happy and … [Read more...]
What Heart Failure After Pregnancy Taught Me About My Post-Baby Body
Even though I ignored it, the first sign that something was wrong appeared on Mother’s Day, 2014. The day before, I had come home from the hospital with my third child, an 8lb, 3 oz baby boy, after a problem-free pregnancy and delivery. I felt good after delivery and was excited to get home with my baby and start the process of dropping the baby weight I had gained. I had been … [Read more...]