After six years in Houston, my wife and I are getting ready for our next chapter in Austin, TX. Austin, approximately a two and a half hour drive northwest of Houston and host of the ever popular SXSW festival, will have to take note of our family's arrival, as we're ready to finally experience the city as residents rather than rabid fans. But before we head out on that … [Read more...]
3 Hard Lessons I’ve Learned From Being Married
Every single one of life's trials has its lessons, and it's up to each one of us to actively learn what life has to teach us... less we repeat the same unnecessary trials. After almost 9 years and through one separation, here are 3 valuable lessons my marriage has taught me. You have tied your life to someone else's decisions We're all taught that we are all responsible for … [Read more...]
4 Awesome Things I Love About Being a Married Man
Sure marriage is a lot of sacrifice...A LOT of sacrifice, but there are plenty of things worth being "tied down" for. Even from a man's perspective, these are four things I love about being married. The Process If you're doing marriage right, you're still trying to learn the process. The ins, the outs, the ups, the downs. The things that cease to work and the things that … [Read more...]
Sometimes I Feel Powerless in My Marriage
We’ve heard it time and time again - communication is the key to a good marriage. And while communication may not be the only component to a long lasting holy matrimony, it’s definitely one of the main pillars. I know as the husband, my opinion matters in our household. It matters mostly because my wife has an open ear for most of my issues. I also know my wife works very … [Read more...]
Make Your Own History For Black History Month
Year after year in this country we take the month of February to celebrate Black History. We reflect on many of those who have come before us and paved the way to give us the opportunities that our predecessors never had. While this is a worthwhile time of reflection, I challenge each of us to recognize the direct impact their sacrifices and triumphs mean to each of us … [Read more...]
Why Sexual Rejection is So Difficult For Men
Sexual rejection is an issue most men I know deal with on a consistent basis. It's why most of us are reluctant to approach a women for a date or even approach our wives for physical companionship. Rejection in any form is difficult for any of us, but sexual rejection is something that really tends to hit home for men, so here's a quick insight into why your man may take it so … [Read more...]
This Is the Difference Between Compromising and Settling
It's always necessary to compromise in a relationship. It's never ok to settle. Here is the simple difference: You compromise on your wants, but you settle on your needs. That's it. And most of us don't know the difference between our wants and our needs because we don't know ourselves well enough to know the difference. And since we can't communicate what we don't know, we … [Read more...]
5 Ways You Can Improve Your Marriage in 2014
I personally haven't been the best husband at times, but every day is a chance to make right the things we've gotten wrong. In 2014, I plan on taking these 5 steps to improve my marriage and be a better husband: [imagebrowser id=202] … [Read more...]
Why I’m Deciding To Be More Authentic With My Wife
by Isom Kuade We have all heard the cliché that communication is the key to a great relationship. While this useful piece of information is good in theory, most of us don’t have a clue how to execute on it. Basically, it’s much more easily said than done, because once we decide to give voice to something, there’s no going back. There are no “take-backs” in honest … [Read more...]
Admitting I Loved My Wife Was One of My Scariest Moments
by Isom Kuade Being raised by a single father, I grew up without the foundation of a mother. We were unfortunately estranged after the age of six, but I knew she was out there in the world - and I knew she knew my brother and I were with my father. Yet, we never spoke, exchanged cards during holidays, called during birthdays, or otherwise. Growing up, I felt the whole … [Read more...]