Do you know the song "Can You Stand The Rain" by New Edition? Try listening to the lyrics. Like me, you might find yourself suddenly relating to them! In this article: An Epiphany from "Can You Stand The Rain" Lyrics What Goes on Behind Closed Doors What Goes on in a Relationship Expectations and Disappointments Storms Will Come, Get Ready for It Can You … [Read more...]
Are You Being A Help Meet in Your Marriage?
We’re living in a time when it’s all about you and only you. Through social media we see posts everyday about where YOU are, what YOU’RE doing, what YOU brought, where YOU’RE on vacation this week, what car YOU’RE driving, etc. etc. and with this “all about me” hoopla going on, most folk are thinking only about themselves and that’s including married folk. See, a lot of us … [Read more...]
Who Should You Take Marriage Advice From?
This past week, one of my friends asked for my opinion on taking advice for her marriage from her single friends. And it didn't take a second for me to give her my two cents on that one. A while ago, I came across an article here at BMWK that caught my attention called Why Singles Should Give Married Friends Relationship Advice. It caught my attention because I truly and … [Read more...]
How to Love Each Day of Your Marriage Like Springtime
“Stay with me, while we grow old and we will spend each day in spring time” – Minnie Ripperton Now, me being the hip hop lover that I am, I’ve never really paid that much attention to R&B lyrics. But the other day, I was in the car blasting Minnie Ripperton’s “Loving You" (which is EASILY one of my favorite songs EVER.) And I heard a lyric that I’ve sung countless … [Read more...]
Treat Your Marriage Like You Treat Your 9-5
One of the first things I realized 14 years ago when I first got married was…this is HARD work! I mean, it’s worth it in the long run, but nevertheless it’s hard work. So one day I started thinking, how much better our marriages would be if we treated them like we treat our 9-5’s? So check out 5 ways that you can improve your marriage if you treated it like you treat your … [Read more...]
Top 4 Gifts for the Man in Your Life
One of the questions I always get from my sisters and my home-girls is what they should get their man for birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, etc? So to help out women around the planet, I put together a full proof, can't lose list of what to get your man for those special occasions. The Galaxy S5 With Samsung having the hottest phone in the streets, if your man is into … [Read more...]
3 Things that Will Help You and Your Spouse Fight Fair
One of the biggest problems Tanya and I had when we first got married was learning how to fight fair. Our first two years of marriage was very reminiscent of Jody and Yvette in "Baby Boy" and I told Tee that we weren't bringing any kids into this world until we learned how to argue the "right way." Over the years, we've found numerous tips that have helped us to stay on point … [Read more...]
I Had to Learn How to Forgive, So I Could Get Past the Hurt
One day at bible study my pastor was teaching on how we're called to forgive folk since Christ forgave us. And since I’ve never fully understood that, ya'll know me…I raised my hand like "church folk are always talking that forgiveness stuff like it's SO easy to do. It’s much easier said then done." And my pastor shot back that forgiveness isn't hard to do, it's getting past … [Read more...]
5 Cheap Date Ideas for Couples
Aiight...times are hard out here. I know more people who are unemployed, losing their houses, losing cars, having to cut back on nearly everything now more then ever. And if you're not careful about how you handle your finances and your decision making during these times, this could very well be the season that destroys your marriage. And I know a lot of couples who look at … [Read more...]
My Top 5 Hip Hop Love Songs
Aiight…for some quick background on me, I’m a DIE HARD HIP HOP HEAD! I have lived and breathed this culture since I was a shorty back in Philly in the early 80’s. I may be a relationship coach on the side, but first and foremost, I’m hip hop ALL DAY! So the other day during one of my rap sessions at the teen center I run, some of the girls were saying that they don't like … [Read more...]
Revenge: Stop Trying to Pay Your Spouse Back
If you've read enough of my articles then you should know by now that I’m a BIG dog lover. I wanted to buy a blue pitbull named Danger and ended up with a Yorkie named Boots, but I love my dude nonetheless. So every now and then, I try learning more about dogs and why they do what they do. The other day I was wondering why dogs like to be pet and I came across this article. … [Read more...]
5 New Year’s Resolutions to Make Your Marriage Better and Stronger in 2014
Even though the New Year isn't here yet, you can start plotting on what resolutions you're gonna make to make your marriage stronger and better. Check out my top 5 resolutions ya'll should jump on. 1. Get A Show To Watch Together. One of the main complaints Dr. Roz and I hear from couples is that they don't spend a lot of time together. Hell, to be honest most married … [Read more...]
It’s A Thin Line Between Love and Hate: Love Your Spouse No Matter What
Since I'm from Philly, of course that means I'm a Sixers, Eagles, Phillies and Flyers fan, by default. I never understood how you're not a fan of your hometown sports team no matter how many times they let you down (like 5 NFC chip games under Reid but only 1 Super Bowl appearance) or how bad they suck....You still gotta be a fan. So with all of that being said, I realized … [Read more...]
The Most Important Ingredient in Marriage: Love or Commitment?
When Tee and I were in pre-marriage counseling, our pastor asked us what was the most important ingredient in marriage. We both thought the answer was love, but the pastor told us it was commitment. He told us there would be days and times when it feels like we don't love each other but being committed to each other will be what keeps the marriage together. So, even though … [Read more...]
When Your Spouse Get’s Home, Stop What You’re Doing and Greet Them
I’ve NEVER been a dog person. My grandmother’s next door neighbor gave me a pitbull when I was 10 (he used to bred & fight pits) but someone stole him off her back porch and ever since then, I haven’t rocked with dogs. Then one day I’m home watching TV and this ASPCA commercial came on and I asked Tanya “how did they get that Puss ‘n Boots effect on the dogs eyes like … [Read more...]