You may call it "being passive" or even "not taking initiative." But in his mind, he thinks it's a direct result of you never being satisfied! Okay, ladies now before you get defensive and/or upset about that statement just step back and think about it. Think about how it all started when you were dating. Your man was assertive and very alpha male-ish (yeah, I just made … [Read more...]
Forgot You Had a Spouse? An Open Letter To Couples That Need to Reconnect!
Dear Men and Women, Your man is not your accessory. Your woman is not your mother. Okay, now that we've gotten that out of the way, let me give it some context. Remember the times when our relationships were new and full of energy, lust, chemistry and excitement? ***cue Michael Jackson song "Do You Remember the Time"*** But then, life happened. Careers got in way. … [Read more...]
Pay Attention, Fellas! Women Revealed the 12 Fashion No-Nos That Turn a Man’s Swag All The Way Down
Okay, fellas, I’ve asked the ladies, and they have spoken! Between my wife, my sister, sister in-law and all of their friends, I frequently have a house full of women (please pray for me). Well, I decided to help you out on the fashion front because I got an inside scoop from the ladies for my fellas on what NOT to wear. I’m sure most of us think we are up to par in this … [Read more...]
4 BIG Things You Need to Leave in Your Single Days
Being in a relationship or marriage doesn't have to be the death to fun!! Being in a relationship is a choice, but with that choice comes change and responsibility. One of the things couples struggle with the most is accepting the fact that you can't be in a relationship with a single person’s mindset. Many struggle with fighting for their independence in an interdependent … [Read more...]
Fellas, Your Woman Might Be Dying for You to SHIFT in These 4 BIG Areas!
Okay, so I was recently doing a speaking engagement, lecturing to a group of women about how to get the passion back in their marriages. One woman asked the simple question, "how can I get my husband to stop being a couch potato?" When I coach people I often tell them that they shouldn't date or marry someone with hopes of changing them, but this question made me think a … [Read more...]
Stop Comparing Me To Your Ex! 4 Comparisons That Are Killing Your New Relationship
I've always believed that there is no such thing as a soulmate or such a thing as finding "the one." I think those are romanticized versions of love and relationships, and it gets us stuck looking at preferences more than character and values. I also believe that sometimes it causes us to unfairly compare our new mates with our old mates, instead of embracing the fact that … [Read more...]
These 5 Mixed Signals Are Killing Your Love Life!
Dating and relationships have become more complex because there is a lack of clarity! It’s like the era of the mixed signal phenomenon where people want to say and do one thing but expect people to believe another thing. I believe some of us are giving off mixed signals and don’t even realize it. Let me break down some of the signals you might be giving off: 1) You’re still … [Read more...]
Your Man is More Than an Accessory: Four Ways to Show It
As I reflect on Father's Day, I came to a realization. The realization is that so many times in relationships or marriages instead of men being viewed as partners or priorities, they are merely viewed as accessories. While he might not be craving the attention openly (because men aren't raised that way), it doesn't mean he doesn't desire acknowledgement and appreciation. Here … [Read more...]
4 Relationship Things You Need To Stop Faking for Facebook!
“Don’t believe the likes!” I don’t know about you, but sometimes I feel like when it comes to dating and in relationships, we put more effort to make ourselves look happy than we put into actually being happy. I get it; there is a certain level of gratification that comes with the public recognition. But at the end of the day, we have to get from behind the computer screen and … [Read more...]
You’re “GROWING APART” Because You Won’t Do These 4 Things!
You’ve been arguing for weeks, and everything your mate does annoys you to no end. You’ve stopped kissing and haven’t had sex or real intimacy in what seems like forever. Your schedules are busy, and the kids have so many things going on that you’ve just become functional parents, trying to survive the long days and short weekends. You’re like two ships passing in the night, … [Read more...]
Why Getting Romance and Sex Ideas from the Movies Will Fail You Every Time
Picture it: The quintessential Mother’s Day picnic planned by yours truly! I purchased the wine and the chocolate-covered strawberries and even made the perfect food to pair with it. I had it packaged expertly—just like they do in the fancy stores. I planned for it to happen in the right place at the right time, and I told her to clear her calendar because I was going to make … [Read more...]
She Get It from Her Mama; 5 Things Your Parents Did Then That Are Killing Your Relationship Now!
“Just because you grew up that way, doesn’t mean it’s right!” Has anyone ever heard this before from your mate? If so, let’s have a very candid discussion. The more I speak to clients and the more I get feedback from my NEW BOOK , I realize that many of us are struggling in our current relationships. And we will struggle in future relationships if we continue to be prisoners … [Read more...]
My Wife Lost Her Wedding Ring…NOW WHAT!?
I know I told her 1,001 times to stop just sitting THAT ring down nonchalantly! She must not know the mental struggle I went through in the jewelry store, trying to decide what cut, clarity and all them other C’s they talk about when choosing rings. All I can think about are the negotiating skills I had to bring out, the financial investment and the emotional roller coaster I … [Read more...]
Ladies, Can You Handle The Truth? 6 Things That Frustrate Your Man!
Ladies Can You Handle The Truth? 6 Things That Frustrate Your Man! 1) You can't make up your mind Whether it's what to wear or what to eat, can you please just make a decision and stick to it??? Sometimes, it really just comes down to you overthinking things. The kicker though is that when you ask for our opinion (and we give you an answer) and then you aren't happy with our … [Read more...]
How Often Do Happy Couples Have Sex? 5 Reasons You May Not Hit The Number!
Man, listen. I didn’t get married to only have sex once a week!!! I’m sure most men would agree that only getting sex once a week sounds asinine, that is until real life, real responsibilities, real stress and real tiredness seem to creep into our bedrooms when in long-term relationships. So the age-old question comes up: “how often should a couple have sex?” Well, CNN did a … [Read more...]