“I NEED, I NEED, I NEED, I NEED YOU!” Those were the lyrics from the song by TGT (Tyrese, Ginuwine and Tank) as they poured their hearts out about realizing how much they needed that special woman in their life. As a relationship coach, I’ve noticed most men reach out to me after they’ve have had the epiphany that they too NEED a special woman in their life. And those men … [Read more...]
Raising a Child Alone is Tough! 7 Simple Things That Make Parenting Easier Together!
Okay, so I’m only seven months into this whole fatherhood thing and everyday brings new growth and challenges. The older my daughter gets, the more I reflect on the number of single parents out there raising kids on their own. My heart goes out to them. I couldn’t imagine doing this on my own, and it makes me so thankful for my wife and the support system we have around … [Read more...]
Dinner and a Movie No More! 12 New Ways to Reconnect With Your Spouse.
Dinner and a movie, dinner by itself, dinner and a movie in the house until you both fall asleep on the movie, dinner, then dinner again. Sound boring yet? I don’t know what it is, but often once we get married or get in long-term relationships our only idea of a date (if we still go on those) far too often involves the same variations of dinner and a movie. Although dinner … [Read more...]
10 Dirty Little Secrets About Marriage
Between my coaching, speaking and the launch of my new book (Teach Me How to Love), one thing is becoming very clear to me about dating, relationships and marriage. That one thing? It’s the dirty little secret(s) we need to stop hiding if we want to see our relationships succeed. I believe the images we see about relationships have too many extremes; one is extremely … [Read more...]
You’re Married Now What? 5 Harsh Realities about Marriage!
Congratulations, you’re married! NOW is when the real work begins. Every day I see and speak to couples who are hit with a new reality once their wedding day is over. Those couples get back home from their honeymoon and then it sinks in that they are actually committed to and stuck with their mate for the rest of their lives. Once reality sets in, couples realize that … [Read more...]
6 Ways to Make Your Husband Say “DAMN, I Love This Woman”
Two weeks ago, the ladies were clapping their hands, supporting the advice I gave in this article about telling the fellas how to STEP THEIR GAME UP. Well , you know it wouldn’t be me if I didn’t come back and give some tips to the ladies to help them pep up their romance game as well. Ladies, just like us men, you sometimes get way too comfortable as well. Sometimes, you … [Read more...]
#BreakEveryChain: Stop Trying to Control Your Mate
Maybe there was something or someone from your past who hurt you or deceived you. Maybe it was your ex who would say one thing and do another. Maybe you and your current mate went through a season together when he or she “messed up” and lost your trust. Maybe you are so worried about the possibility your mate could make you look bad that you try to control everything he or she … [Read more...]
Fellas, Step Your Game Up! 6 Things to Do Today to Make Your Wife Say “My, My, My!”
Fellas, sometimes we can get way too comfortable in our long-term relationships. We think that just because we are going to work and paying bills our wives should just be grateful and satisfied. WELP…even though your lady appreciates that, she wants her MAN back and you probably don’t even know it. If you’ve stopped paying attention, then remember women are physical beings … [Read more...]
YOU CAN’T HANDLE THE TRUTH! 3 Very REAL Reasons Your Man Might Be Lying to You!
“Why won’t you just tell me the truth?” “Baby, you know you can tell me the truth…” “I can handle the truth…” Most men have heard those statements before. And because they often sound so earnest and so convincing, many men have gone down that scary road of telling the truth just to find out that it leads into a trap. Ladies, you love to say these things to try to get … [Read more...]
7 BIG Things that Couples Want Their In-Laws to Puh-lease Stop Doing… TODAY!
In-Laws…the ones we love to hate! Okay hate is a very strong so let’s say the ones we really, really like to DISLIKE sometimes. I overheard a conversation the other day with a wife who was FURIOUS because of the ruckus her mother-in-law was causing in her marriage. While in-laws can be such a blessing, many times they can be cancerous to a relationship or marriage , … [Read more...]
An Open Letter to Men Who Struggle with this ONE Thing
Dear You, I can’t lie. Sometimes, I struggle. It’s like your heart being caught in the middle of a game of tug of war with family on one end and passion and purpose on the other end. It’s like being on a seesaw where 'provider' is on one side and 'family man' on the other. It’s like the moment I just had while I watched my daughter playing in her bouncy chair so … [Read more...]
4 Reasons You Shouldn’t Spend Valentine’s Day with Someone You Aren’t Really THAT Into
Okay, I get it; people have mixed feelings about Valentine’s Day. Some think it’s overrated while others love the celebration of love. I find it funny though how, many times, the people who find it overrated are usually the people who are either going through their single season or aren’t really that in love with their mate at the moment. Well, whether you think it’s … [Read more...]
“You Are on My LAST Nerve!” The Top 5 Biggest Complaints Women Have About Their Men!
Shhhhhh…. fellas don’t tell the ladies that I shared this with you but I’m letting the secret out. One privilege I have as a relationship coach is that I get to hear the most common issues that many ladies have with their men. Before you get all defensive and think this is going to be a bash the man session hear me out. I spend a lot of my time trying to help women … [Read more...]
5 Things that Change with Marriage…and Why It’s OK
"I'm just afraid everything will change!" Yup…that seems to be the number one fear of most men as they start to entertain the idea of marriage. Maybe it's the horror stories they've heard from other men; or maybe it's the transformation they've seen some women undergo after marriage; or maybe it's just a lack of understanding of what marriage is really all about. The … [Read more...]
5 BIG Signs that You May Not Be as Good a Husband or Wife as You Think!
“A lot of people want to be married but not many want to be husbands and wives.” I wrote this quote on social media a while ago and it seemed that it hit home with many people. The fact that it did told me there is more to the story. The reaction told me that many people are in love with the title of husband and wife, but don’t necessarily embrace the responsibility that … [Read more...]