What you focus on is what will grow and it might be about time that you stop focusing on everything that is wrong in your relationship! I think at times we forget that we chose our mates for a reason. You talked the big talk, you had the big wedding, you professed your love and commitment to this person and now you’re a few years in and your entire tune has changed! The … [Read more...]
In a Relationship? 6 “Friends” Who Might Get the Side Eye from Your Mate
If your mate doesn't like your "friends" what should you do? Okay y'all know the scenario...you get into a new relationship, but you still have the same old friends. She is the gossip queen and when you and your mate have a disagreement, she says stuff like "girl, you don't have to answer to him." You and your friends have been down for a long time, but your mate thinks they … [Read more...]
Your Kids or Your Spouse – Who Comes First in Your Marriage?
I remember it so vividly. What seemed like a very small thing had such big implications! When my daughter was only a few weeks old I walked in the house from a business trip. I had been gone a few days so I was excited to get back and see my family. I walked up the stairs where my wife and daughter were sitting on the couch and it happened. I ran over to my daughter and … [Read more...]
Stop Fighting and Start Listening: 3 Huge Areas Men May Need to Check Their Ego at the Door!
STOP fighting and START listening!! Okay, okay, okay. Before I move forward, let me back up a minute and confess that the type of man I am talking about is the type of man I used to be and, sometimes, still am. Sometimes in my relationship, I was so defensive that, instead of seeing when my wife was trying to help me, I would always take things as if she was trying to hurt … [Read more...]
Stop Trying to Change Me! 3 Seasons of Life Where You May Need to Change Yourself!
NO, your mate can’t change you but that doesn’t mean that you may not need to change some things. Okay let me back up for a second because I am a huge advocate of accepting someone as they are when going into a marriage or a relationship; but the truth of the matter is that there is no way to go through every season with someone before you decide to marry them. Sometimes in … [Read more...]
4 Times You Might Feel Like Drop Kicking Your Spouse…but Here’s What to Do Instead
Loving thoughts produce loving actions and loving actions produce loving feelings… Yeah, I know what you're thinking, "that's easier said than done." And, while I get that, I think our relationships and marriages are worth the effort. There are 4 scenarios where being loving to your mate are probably the hardest, but you may find that you need to do it the most during these … [Read more...]
If You Married Your “Best Friend” Then Act Like It! 6 Uncomfortable Conversations that Should Not Be Avoided
Here's an all too common scenario: She's fussing because you won't communicate. You shut down and won't communicate with her because she's fussing. You both end up with attitudes and nothing gets solved.....and the cycle continues. I'm amazed at how sometimes in our marriages we claim to have married our "best friend," yet we will ignore issues and let them fester and won't … [Read more...]
Wives: Here Are 6 Things Every Husband Should Experience in His Marriage
Check here to read: Husbands: Here Are 7 Basic Things Every Wife Should Experience in Her Marriage One of the hardest things about marriage for men is the fear of the unknown. Everything from the horror stories of unhappy people to the negative portrayal of marriage in the media is enough to make many men never want to say "I Do." Having a wife who will protect his heart, … [Read more...]
Tears, Puke, and Poop – My Love Hate Relationship with Being a Dad
"Kinsley, I love you dearly from about 8am-11pm. But after that, you are not my favorite person." Yup that's the conversation I had with my 2 month old as we sat on the couch watching TV together. I can't lie. Over the last few days, I've been highly frustrated with this little girl of mine. But it's such a growing process for me. I'm so used to being able to control … [Read more...]
5 BIG Reasons Your Man May NOT Be Having Sex With You!
“I’ve been trying, but my husband hasn’t wanted to have sex with me lately and I don’t know why!” This sentiment came from many women that commented on my recent article Why Does My Man Always Want Sex? 6 BIG Things Ladies Must Know About Men and Sex!! Well I realized that sometimes this is one of the hardest things for women to understand because for some reason society has … [Read more...]
4 Reasons NEW SCHOOL Married Folks Get on My Nerves!
Married people get on my nerves!!! Okay, now that I’ve got your attention and you probably have a slight defensive attitude let me explain. First and foremost, this isn’t something I originally thought. But I started thinking it more and more when I heard a single person speak on how married people get on their nerves because they have the thing that they wish for but … [Read more...]
The 4 Biggest Arguments that Are Tearing Your Marriage Apart…Whether You Know It or Not
You know I used to think I was crazy for thinking that, as couples, if we would just communicate more, we would argue less and love each other more. The more I coach, I realize that many couples have the same arguments and disagreements over and over again. Yet the very same communication that could solve these issues is often met with defensiveness, blame, and just more … [Read more...]
Yes, Your Wife Loves Sex! But Here Are 6 Huge Reasons You Ain’t Gettin’ None
“Oh and I haven’t forgotten about the fellas, stay tuned… I’ve got some things for them to consider as well!” That’s how I ended last week's article entitled Why Does My Man Always Want Sex? 6 Big Things Ladies Must Know About Men and Sex. And, although some toes were stepped on, I think some hearts were opened and it initiated a much-needed dialogue about men and … [Read more...]
5 BIG Ways Men Make A Difference As Fathers & 5 SIMPLE Ways Women Can Help Him Be Even Better!
Between the swollen feet, extra 60 pounds of mostly stomach, morning sickness, hormones, and the baby sitting on her bladder I started to feel really sorry for my wife as she was going through her pregnancy. Now between the sore breasts from breast feeding, having to pump every 2.5 seconds, still being sore from delivery, the baby crying, and changing 100 diapers a day, I'm … [Read more...]
5 BIG Reasons You and Your Mate Keep Having the Same Old Arguments
Do you find yourself arguing about the same things over and over again in your relationship? Do you find yourself venting to your friends time and time again about your wife or husband? If you ask your friends, I bet they can tell you before you even start speaking what this long dreaded phone conversation is going to be about. Now that you’ve thought about it, have you ever … [Read more...]