First and foremost, it's been exactly 10 days since you were born; and as I look at you laying next to me on your Boppy Pillow, you're still alive so I would say I passed my first test as a parent! You're already special because you're our first child and we've chosen to name you Kinsley Tarryn Spry. I guess if I could sum up all of the emotions I’ve felt over the past week … [Read more...]
Women: Your Man Thinks These 4 Insensitive Behaviors Are a “Big Deal!”
PSA: The male emotions and ego must be handled with care. Ok, ok, ok let me back up before some of you ladies get to thinking “aww another article about how sensitive men are! Well, the truth of the matter is, that article received thousands and thousands of views because it touched on topics that many of your men wanted to tell you. However, they didn’t tell you mainly … [Read more...]
TOP 9 Things That Will Cause Your Relationship to CRASH!
NEWS FLASH…This idea of “RELATIONSHIP” is not always a smooth ride! We must understand that even though love and relationships are always a risk we can do things to give ourselves the best chance of making them successful. On the flip side there are things that we can do to make sure we have the most perplexing experiences ever. Sometimes, as a coach, I get so frustrated … [Read more...]
REALITY CHECK! These 5 Things Get The Best Of You While Your Mate Gets The Leftovers
Why does it seem like sometimes we treat everyone else better than we treat our mates? So let me get this straight…the person you CHOSE to spend your life with, to cherish, to love, to have and to hold and to love until death do you part is the person that you treat with the least kindness, patience, appreciation, and support? YOU OUGHT TO BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF!! Okay, … [Read more...]
When Is The Last Time You…? 13 Things Your Mate Wished You Never Stopped Doing!
When is the last time you…..? Well I think that is a question we need to ask ourselves more often in our relationships. The truth of the matter is that in long-term relationships, routines sometimes begin to dominate our lives and we start forgetting all of the little things we used to win over our mates. People always say “the same things you did to get them you have to do … [Read more...]
Why Should I Get Married!? 13 Signs You Might Not Be Ready For Marriage
WARNING: Some of you may question getting married or why you ever got married once you read this! Often we find out the hard way that a lot that happens in a marriage is on the job training. However, there are still quite a few things that we can learn before we say” I do!” With marriage being such a paramount decision that affects so much of our lives, you would think … [Read more...]
My Mate Isn’t Talking To Me Again! 5 Reasons The Silent Treatment Isn’t The Way To Go!
"If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all!" I know that's what your parents taught you; but for many, saying nothing at all is taken wayyyy to far! PSA: Giving your mate the silent treatment when you are upset still doesn't solve the problem! You know the feeling, the one where two people are mad at each other and you can cut the tension between … [Read more...]
Do You Have Emotional Intimacy With Your Man?
As a coach I often find myself having this conversation with female clients who call me to get advice about dealing with their husbands. So let me get this straight, if he tells you about his feelings he needs to stop whining, but when he doesn't tell you how he feels he isn't open and doesn't communicate well? Another famous line is "he acts like the woman in the … [Read more...]
5 Things You Can Do to Keep Your Relationship from Crashing and Burning
"Well that's just not who I am!" When I heard this yet again from another client I knew I had to write about it. I often coach clients and couples who are very resistant to change. In many cases, they feel stagnant and disconnected in relationships that have reached a new season and require evolution and growth. Often times, when couples reach this point, rather than … [Read more...]
“Caught in the Act!”: Focusing On This One Thing Is Killing Your Marriage
"What you focus on is what will grow!" This quote got me thinking about how we in relationships tend to focus so much on our mate’s shortcomings and not enough on his or her positive attributes. As a coach I often get clients who call me and can give me a list of everything their mates are doing wrong. "He doesn't clean up behind himself!" "She nags too much!" "He … [Read more...]
17 Reasons Why You May Want Out of Your Marriage
Man, this marriage thing is false advertisement and it's not all it's cracked up to be! Hard to believe you would be thinking this because everybody thought y'all were the perfect couple. Facebook might have even called you guys a power couple. Your girls said they would die to have a man like yours and your boys said you had a winner! $5,000-$10,000 spent on the ring, … [Read more...]
5 Ways You Keep Trying To “One-Up” Your Mate And Why You Need To Stop!
So as I sit here with chipmunk cheeks because my mouth is swollen from having my wisdom teeth pulled, I’m in pain but I’m also in awe! I'm in awe because my wife is 8 months pregnant with swollen feet, yet she still found time to cater to me in my time of pain and discomfort. She found the energy to bring me ice packs, make me oatmeal and soup, and just lay with me until I … [Read more...]
Are You Responsible for Taking Care of Your Family and Siblings If They Keep Making Poor Money Choices
Are you obligated to take care of your parents or family once you become an adult? What if your parents continue to make bad financial or health decisions, do you have to step in? What if your own family is struggling because you have been putting all your effort into making sure your parents, siblings and other relatives are okay? How come you can never look to your older … [Read more...]
A Husband Shares 10 Reasons He’s Still Married…And Not One of Them Starts with “Just Because”
Sooooo I was having a conversation today with a young lady who had broken up with her boyfriend a while back. It had been a while since we had spoken so I asked her if they had gotten back together. She took that awkward pause and said something along the lines of "I guess so." Not judgmentally, but just out of curiosity I proceeded to ask her "why?" In my mind I'm thinking … [Read more...]
7 Songs Every Man Listens to When He’s Falling in Love
Okay I know when we think of love songs, we always think of the ladies being sappy and in love, but you haven’t seen anything until you watch a man fall in love. Men might do it in the privacy of their own homes, but we get just as sappy and all those love songs start speaking to us too. Maybe it was just me…now I KNOW it wasn’t just me…but I remember being on the phone for … [Read more...]