“And I will swallow my pride, you’re the one that I love and I’m saying goodbye…say something I’m giving up on you….” As I listened to these lyrics from Ian Axel in his song “Say Something.” When I heard the vulnerability in his tone, it hit me. What hit me is that pride is not only causing many of us to get into unhealthy relationships, but it’s causing even more of our … [Read more...]
6 Times Men Suffer in Silence When Their Women Treat Them Wrong. Why?
"I was doing my best to do right by her and to be a good man to her but I guess it just wasn't good enough." This was the conversation I found myself in with someone in the sauna at the gym of all places. This man didn't know me but he was subconsciously confiding in me about the fact that his wife was "wilding out" (aka staying out all night, cheating on him, and generally … [Read more...]
Why My Wife Went from 0-100 REAL QUICK and 4 Reasons Your Mate Might Do the Same to You
She went from 0 to 100 in a matter of seconds and I’m stuck sitting there trying to figure out where in the hell all of this came from! Okay, I’ll come back to that later but first let’s talk about this concept. “It’s crazy sometimes how much men and women want and need each other, yet won’t take time to seek to understand one another!” It’s almost like men, women, husbands … [Read more...]
If Left Unchecked, 5 Ways Your Insecurities Can Wreak Havoc on Your Marriage!
"Sometimes anger is just fear wrapped up in insecurity." If it's one thing I've noticed just through being in a relationship and through my coaching and interactions with my audience it’s that we aren't nearly as "hard" as we claim to be. For some reason we feel the need to express our frustrations and fears in the form of confrontation or being nonchalant. In other words we … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Know You’re Dealing With a Daddy’s Girl!
"If you wanted your daddy, you should have married your daddy!" I'm sure there are some men out there who want to tell their women that at least once a week! You see I wrote an article letting the ladies know how to tell they were dating a mama’s boy, so I just had to write one about daddy's girls! [imagebrowser id=430] … [Read more...]
No One Told Me I Had to Get My Wife a Mother’s Day Present…
Why I'm NOT Getting My Wife a Mother's Day Gift... Me: Do I have to get you something for Mother's Day? Her: Well I would probably expect a small token...at least a card or something. Me: Ummm....oh ok. Okay so before you wonder why that conversation was so awkward, it's because my wife and I don't currently have any children but we are expecting our first in about … [Read more...]
SINGLES: 10 Off-Limit Topics That Will Make Your First Date Your Last Date!
"I couldn't wait for the date to be over!!!" It's funny how I hear that statement from a lot of clients after they tell me some of their first date horror stories. It's hard enough these days to get someone to take you out on a real date (beyond red box and drinks at the house) but if you do get that honor some of the experiences are mind numbing! Well, after listening I'm … [Read more...]
6 Serious (Yet Humorous) Concerns of a First Time Dad
"This baby is kicking your butt!" I swear I tell my wife this about once a week now. And if you don't know, we have our first baby on the way! As her "tummy" grows (I guess I sound more sensitive if I say that instead of stomach or belly) it's starting to hit me that THIS IS NOT A TEST! It seems like just yesterday we were two kids in college crushing on each other and now … [Read more...]
5 Signs that You’re With a Mama’s Boy and How to Handle it
I LOVE MY MAMA so trust me, I know what a mother’s love feels like. As men that feeling never gets old, but we have to learn when to let go. I felt the need to write this piece because I have to admit that one of the top 5 issues that women come to me with as a relationship coach is their frustration with MAMA’S BOYS! Sometimes I ask men the question "Who comes first, wife or … [Read more...]
5 EASY Ways Men Can Get Their Women Back!
“Your woman still wants to be pursued even after you’ve already caught her!” It’s so easy for us as men to take a backseat and passive role in our relationships once we are veterans in the game, but our women are begging us to get back into the driver’s seat! Here are 5 ways we can do that….come follow me! [imagebrowser id=415] … [Read more...]
Why She Wants to Leave and He Doesn’t Even Know It!
"I don't understand why you left, baby what didn't I do? Wasn't I always there for you? Wasn't I good to you? How was I to know something was wrong, baby I can't read minds. All you had to do was tell me but you kept it all inside!" Yes. Those thoughts in 112's song, Missing You, are exactly what many men end up thinking when suddenly his woman drops the bomb on him that she … [Read more...]
5 Things Your Man Wants You to Stop Tripping About!
"Just because she CAN do it all doesn't mean she should have to!" I made this into one of my infamous memes one day and it set the ladies on social media on fire. I got a flurry of....."amen!", "yaaassss!", and "preach!" comments. Well, I got to thinking about this narrative that gets perpetuated so much that endorses the fact that men aren't involved in their households or are … [Read more...]
MAN to MAN: 11 Things We Do When We Start Loving Her Better
MEN LOSE THE EGO! Okay first and foremost you must understand that this statement is coming from a man who used to have one of the biggest egos ever. Recently, I was sitting on a plane and I started doing some self-reflection; being up in the clouds watching the world fly by can make you ponder on some stuff. Anyway, like many men I started thinking back to what guys call their … [Read more...]
I NEED SOME ANSWERS! Why is My Mate Popping Up at My Job?
Should you make regular visits to your mate’s job or events? Okay, I guess it would be nice to know why I am asking this question so let me give you a little background information. I was talking to someone who said that her husband tells her she should probably start making some visits up to his job just to show that he is happily married and that his wife is an active part of … [Read more...]
Part Two! Three Lies Women Tell Themselves that Keep Them from Loving Him Better
"The worst lies are the ones that we tell to ourselves." Sometimes it's those same lies that stop us from loving our mates better. That's the concept I wrote about to the men last week in my article. Well, men aren't the only ones that lie to themselves in relationships. Let’s talk about some lies the ladies tell themselves that may be stopping them from loving their men … [Read more...]