If you’ve ever seen The 40-Year-Old Virgin you’re probably familiar with some of the negative stereotypes associated with adult male virgins. But did you know there is a real-life 30-Year-Old Virgin who is nothing like that movie’s main character? JimDre Westbrook, creator of the site Worth the Wait Guy, is defying stereotypes and showing that a man can be creative, confident, inspiring, and abstinent. It was a pleasure to chat with him about his site, his faith, and his movement to change the way people think about male virgins.
BMWK: Are you a virgin or remaining celibate until marriage? What motivated you to abstain from sex until marriage?
JimDre: I am the real-life 30 year-old virgin! I have never had sex before. I made a pact with God at the tender age of 14 to wait for sex until marriage. I grew up in a household where we believed in God and His word. It’s very important to understand that I made this decision on my own – my parents did not influence my decision either way. I always thought that waiting for sex until marriage was the “ultimate gift” a husband could give to his wife.
BMWK: What is the most difficult part of your decision (e.g., temptation, social pressure)?
JimDre: The most difficult part of my decision is the constant everyday temptation. We live in a very over-sexualized world – sex is everywhere! It’s so easy to be sexually active in 2014, especially living in the Sin City aka Entertainment Capital of The World. The dating culture in Las Vegas is all about “hooking up” and when that’s not your thing, dating life can be a bit challenging.
BMWK: How do women react when you inform them of your decision? Does your decision make dating more difficult?
JimDre: Believe it or not, most women react very positively when I inform them of my decision to wait for sex until marriage. Their first reaction is mostly the same – shockingly surprised! Once I explain my reasoning, women express their encouragement and support. However, being a virgin does complicate the dating process. Even though women may respect what I’m doing (or not doing), it doesn’t mean that they would actually date a virgin. In most of my dating experiences, I’ve actually been blessed to date women who totally respected my decision 100%. That made life a lot easier 🙂