If you’ve ever seen The 40-Year-Old Virgin you’re probably familiar with some of the negative stereotypes associated with adult male virgins. But did you know there is a real-life 30-Year-Old Virgin who is nothing like that movie’s main character? JimDre Westbrook, creator of the site Worth the Wait Guy, is defying stereotypes and showing that a man can be creative, confident, inspiring, and abstinent. It was a pleasure to chat with him about his site, his faith, and his movement to change the way people think about male virgins.
BMWK: Are you a virgin or remaining celibate until marriage? What motivated you to abstain from sex until marriage?
JimDre: I am the real-life 30 year-old virgin! I have never had sex before. I made a pact with God at the tender age of 14 to wait for sex until marriage. I grew up in a household where we believed in God and His word. It’s very important to understand that I made this decision on my own – my parents did not influence my decision either way. I always thought that waiting for sex until marriage was the “ultimate gift” a husband could give to his wife.
BMWK: What is the most difficult part of your decision (e.g., temptation, social pressure)?
JimDre: The most difficult part of my decision is the constant everyday temptation. We live in a very over-sexualized world – sex is everywhere! It’s so easy to be sexually active in 2014, especially living in the Sin City aka Entertainment Capital of The World. The dating culture in Las Vegas is all about “hooking up” and when that’s not your thing, dating life can be a bit challenging.
BMWK: How do women react when you inform them of your decision? Does your decision make dating more difficult?
JimDre: Believe it or not, most women react very positively when I inform them of my decision to wait for sex until marriage. Their first reaction is mostly the same – shockingly surprised! Once I explain my reasoning, women express their encouragement and support. However, being a virgin does complicate the dating process. Even though women may respect what I’m doing (or not doing), it doesn’t mean that they would actually date a virgin. In most of my dating experiences, I’ve actually been blessed to date women who totally respected my decision 100%. That made life a lot easier 🙂
Ashe! Great post BMWK. I applaud this man for his discipline and strength. I pray that God continues to cover him until his wife comes along. I wish him all the best.
I love this and applaud his dedication. I need to find a way to share this with my students, and with the school clinic personnel where “protection” is freely distributed. Personally, I’m also waiting on God to work his “magic.”
God is truly going to bless you! Stay the course and he is going to send you a woman that every man will envy, she will be clean, untouched, and greatly anointed. Your children will be blessed, your finances will be blessed because of you waiting on God and walking in his will.
Totally random but I know a female version of him. I can’t wait to forward this to her. Thank you for the wonderful post!
I am so proud of him! He has shown to be very strong-willed and obedient. From this alone, I believe he’ll make a GREAT husband. Who can say no to a man who follows God?!
I know it is beautiful to find a man that stands up for his spiritual beliefs and knows that he wants to give his wife the best gift possible. That is so rare these days. I made a vow to be abstinent as well. I am praying and waiting for my mate also. I feel blessed by this.
Andre, God’s blessings upon you. I have known you all of your life, and you continue to amaze me. Thank God that your spiritual upbringing, your church family and your decisions have put you to this day. Praying even harder that God will send to you in HIS time that beautiful, caring, loving and God-fearing woman. Love You So Much!!!!
I think it’s awesome. I’m a virgin myself and have thought the same thing that there are no men who are virgins my age (and look like that – just being honest). It’s just great to see a man waiting on God.
Way to go!! When I saw the title I was like “Yes” I am almost 32 and a virgin as well…it’s hard to wait at time but I truly believe it will be worth
Love hearing testimonies like this….I think irs awesome that there are still young men waiting til marriage. Amen.