According to Urban Dictionary, the term "wifey material" describes a woman who possesses certain qualities that would make her a model wife. I'm sure many men would describe this type of woman as a perfect mix of style, substance, sass, and love or at least respect for sports. Aside from that, men appreciate her kindness, supportiveness, and caring nature. She's the type of … [Read more...]
5 Things Every Woman Should Know Before She Gets Married
My last article highlighted five things I thought every man should know before getting married. I think it’s important for men to direct most of their relationship advice to other men because we don’t have many outlets to learn about what it takes to have healthy relationships. I also know it takes two to create a successful marriage so I wanted to make a similar list for … [Read more...]
5 Things Every Man Needs to Learn Before He Gets Married
I've been married for almost two years, but I still feel compelled at times to share bits of wisdom I’ve collected over the years with singles that have intentions of being married some day. I think it's especially important for married men to share with single men because so much of what we have all been taught about being a man is counterproductive to having a good marriage. … [Read more...]
BMWK Interviews the 30-Year-Old Male Virgin
If you’ve ever seen The 40-Year-Old Virgin you’re probably familiar with some of the negative stereotypes associated with adult male virgins. But did you know there is a real-life 30-Year-Old Virgin who is nothing like that movie’s main character? JimDre Westbrook, creator of the site Worth the Wait Guy, is defying stereotypes and showing that a man can be creative, confident, … [Read more...]
Does a Happy Wife Always Lead to a Happy Life?
One of the most common phrases I’ve heard about how to make a marriage last is "happy wife, happy life". Rarely do the people who use this phrase explain what they mean, but one common translation is summed up by advice President Obama gave a husband at a campaign stop during his 2012 reelection bid: “Just do whatever she tells you to”. Conflating a wife’s happiness with her … [Read more...]
5 Things to Remember When Your Million Dollar Wedding Turns Into A Five Cent Marriage
I’ve been married for nearly one year and I can honestly say that while I enjoy being a husband, there are times when the laughs and joy my wife and I felt on our wedding day are not reflected in our relationship. We knew we would have occasional disputes, but there have been times when we’ve both wondered how a day that started out so joyously could evolve into a relationship … [Read more...]
4 of the Most Common Mistakes Male “Relationship Experts” Make
The relationship advice industry is booming and men are increasingly getting in the game. Most people recognize celebrity authors who have built loyal followings through some other platform (e.g., music, media, and entertainment), but there are also lesser-known people who readily dole out advice on men and relationships on websites, blogs, and via social media. With titles … [Read more...]
5 Things Your Relationship Says About You
As a newlywed I’m reminded that my marriage says a great deal about my wife and I. We’re not alone. Relationships are one of life’s most precious resources and they require investments of both time and energy. Understanding the reflective nature of relationships is important because they provide important insight into our character, habits, insecurities, fears, flaws, and … [Read more...]
What’s in Your Relationship Toolbox?
by Delano Squires I recently made the transition from single man to husband and have been thinking a lot about how my relationship with my wife has grown in the last year. I remember how chemistry and attraction helped fuel us in the early stages of our courtship. I also remember realizing at some point that chemistry alone was insufficient for our love to mature. Likewise, … [Read more...]
Is “Thinking Like A Man” Part Of The Solution Or The Problem?
by Delano Squires Theaters all across the country were packed last weekend for the release of Steve Harvey's new film "Think Like a Man." The movie, which was based on Harvey's book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, gave humorous insight into the contemporary dating scene and portrayed the book as the holy grail of relationship advice"”whoever had it held the power. The … [Read more...]
Have You Fallen Victim To The “Right Person” Myth?
One thing I've learned over my lifetime is that you can always learn from others, regardless of whether they are further ahead of you, in a similar position as you, or striving to be where you are. The principle of being open to diverse sources of wisdom is especially valuable with respect to relationships. For instance, I recently got engaged but my current status did … [Read more...]
The Root 100: African Americans Who Shape and Influence Our Culture
by Delano Squires Pop quiz: what do the Executive Director of the Congressional Black Caucus and the founder of Black Girls Rock have in common? The answer is that both were included in The Root 100, a list of some of the country's most influential African Americans between the ages of 25 and 45. I recently had the honor of covering an awards reception for this year's … [Read more...]
Are You Really Ready For A Relationship?
I recently had a conversation at a friend's birthday get-together that I felt I just had to share. It started when one of the women there responded to a compliment on her outfit by saying, "Well, that's one of the perks of having a cheating boyfriend." As you could imagine, I was curious to know why she would say something like that. She said that her boyfriend was a serial … [Read more...]
Are You In An Insecure Relationship?
I've been writing for BMWK for about a year and a half but, ironically, every article I wrote was as a single man. My last relationship ended two years ago, so much of what I've written, and read, about relationships wasn't being applied in my day-to-day life. My relationship status has recently changed, however, and I'm learning more than ever that concepts that sound good in … [Read more...]
How Would You Respond to Infidelity?
The very first post I wrote for BMWK was on a topic, men and infidelity, that seems to always come up when people discuss relationships, and in recent weeks a number of high profile men have made headlines for their cheating ways. First, Arnold Schwarzenegger revealed that he had an affair with a member of his household staff that produced a son who is the same age as one of … [Read more...]