Dear Dr. Buckingham, I desperately need some advice. My 14-year-old son is testing me badly by pushing all kinds of boundaries. We argue over whom he should hang around, where he should go and how he should dress. I punish him on a regular basis and tell him that he will comply with my rules as long as he is under my roof. I am responsible for him, and I want to make sure that … [Read more...]
Parenting
We’re Parents Who Grew Up Without Good Parent Examples; What Do We Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My wife and I have one young child and a teen, and we are concerned about our parenting skills. We both grew up in single-parent households and did not have the best upbringings. We want to give our children the best, but we are worried that we cannot give what we never had. What tips do you have for two well-intended parents? Thanks in … [Read more...]
After a Rough Childhood in Foster Care, a Woman Discovers the Father She Never Knew
Could you imagine going your whole life never knowing your father, and then one day BOOM, "meet your dad"? Would the experience live up to expectations? Would he look like you? Sound like you? Act like you? Hell, would he even like you? This year, singer Keyshia Cole lived this exciting yet fearful reality. At 34 years of age and after a long quest to find her biological … [Read more...]
5 Lessons in Fatherhood from President Obama
[tps_header] Even though, President Obama didn’t grow up with his father…he turned out to be a good father. And I think he is a great example of fathers that break the cycle of abandoning their children. The thing is, it’s easy to forget that President Obama experienced the pain of not knowing his dad when we see him being the leader of the free world. In his book, Dreams … [Read more...]
This Mom Pens a Tough Open Letter to Her Child’s Father Behind Bars
Dear T, This is undoubtedly one of the hardest pieces I've ever written. Here I am, pen in hand, scribing a letter to you. Longing to see your eyes fill with tears receiving the gifts our daughter so thoughtfully made for you. She's grown so much. I vividly remember the day she was born. Thursday, January 27, 2011 is the first and only time I recall viewing life through … [Read more...]
A Few Good Men: Our Adorable Gallery of Celebrity Dads and Their Kids
[tps_header]We wanted to highlight the celebrity dads who rep fatherhood well. These 15 celebrity dads—and granddads—are inspirations in their professions but are even bigger idols to the children who call them dad. 15 Celebrity Dads Who Are Never Too Busy to Show Their Fatherly Love [/tps_header] Funny man Kevin Hart poses for the 'Gram with daughter Heaven and son … [Read more...]
How You’re Cursing Your Child. The Truth About Generational Blessings
When we think of generational blessings, it usually has something do to with the Bible and God either blessing or cursing a family and their descendants. However, in this article, let’s take a look at the generational blessings we as parents, can set up for our children right now, through the decisions we make. What is a generational blessing? Dr. Tony Evans explains … [Read more...]
5 Ways Being a Father Has Blessed Me Even Though I Didn’t Have One
Becoming a father was one of the most important moments of my life. I didn’t have an active father in my own life, so I didn’t have a full scope of the impact fatherhood would have on my life. But now I can see how fatherhood has blessed my life immeasurably. I can honestly say that when a baby is born, a father is born, and there’s nothing like the unconditional love that a … [Read more...]
4 Relationship Things You Need To Stop Faking for Facebook!
“Don’t believe the likes!” I don’t know about you, but sometimes I feel like when it comes to dating and in relationships, we put more effort to make ourselves look happy than we put into actually being happy. I get it; there is a certain level of gratification that comes with the public recognition. But at the end of the day, we have to get from behind the computer screen and … [Read more...]
The Real MVPs; 9 Reasons Why We Love Our Dads
[tps_header] Life as a black man in America isn’t easy. Time and time again, history has shown us that our men are devalued, disrespected and stigmatized in the most damaging ways. As a woman who didn’t grow up having a good relationship with her father, some would expect me to have harsh words for the man that gave me life. I don’t. I’m not mad at him or what … [Read more...]
One Super Unique Way to Spend Father’s Day that’s Fun for Dad and the Kiddies
Father's Day is a really big deal at our house for two reasons. First, my husband is a really great father (and I'm not just saying that because I love him and he's super cute.) He's a good man, he's a great provider, he's a great partner to me, he's a loving father, he's a silly father that plays too much, and he's very intentional about spending time with the kids and … [Read more...]
See What These Sextuplets Look Like Now at Age 6 in the Best Family Photo Ever
Oh my gosh we're in cuteness overload. Isn't this the best idea for a family photo? We think the McGhee might be one of the cuteness family's ever. That said, we would never offer to babysit all six kids at once, lol. More power to them. NBC BLCK has more below... The Ohio-based McGhee family, who welcomed sextuplets in 2010, recently posed for an updated … [Read more...]
4 Easy Ways Fathers Can Promote Leadership with Their Kids, Starting this Weekend
I'm a father; I'm a husband; I'm a leader. All three of those statements are true and they don't take away from my wife's ability to be a mother, a wife, and a leader too. But in order to be the best husband and father that I can be, I have to be a great leader. The success of my family depends on my ability to confidently lead, to communicate, and to work well with my wife … [Read more...]
8 Scriptures to Plant in Your Child’s Heart
Our children are so bright. They are able to memorize more than we may think. Just turn on the radio, and see how many songs they are able to sing from memory. If they can sing songs and quote nursery rhymes by heart, why not the scriptures? Studies show that the core structure of a child’s brain is 85 percent developed by age 3. It’s great to have the backing of briefing … [Read more...]
“Happy Father’s Day…Mom!” Should Single Mothers be Honored on Father’s Day?
One Father’s Day morning, Lil’ Joe gave me a Father’s Day card at church. I was so thankful! He was 10 years old back then. And when Jasmyn was 20, she gave me this beautifully hand-written Father’s Day card. I was so humbled. But I couldn’t help but wonder if Lil’ Joe also gave a card to Big Joe, his father. And if Jasmyn wrote her father a nice Father’s Day card … [Read more...]