We all know the powerful and popular scripture found in Proverbs 18:21, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love to talk will reap the consequences.”
Just about every sermon on communication references to that scripture in order to show just how impactful our words are on others when used negatively. This scripture also shows how important words are to God.
It is by Him speaking words that He created the very World we live in. It is by Him speaking that we know what to do with our lives. God values words and because of that we also must value them.
It is very easy in our marriage or in any relationship to use words to destroy rather than to build up. In the moments when you and your spouse aren’t seeing eye to eye, or, maybe the moment your spouse takes you to that tipping point, we can choose the words that hurt the most.
Our generation has become excellent with words, but we must learn how and when to use them accordingly to use them.
You will find in the book of 2 and 3 John, Apostle John concluding his letters like this, “I have much to write to you, but I do not want to use paper and ink. Instead, I hope to visit you and talk with you face to face, so that our joy may be complete.”
As I was reading this the thought hit me; even then, in biblical days, there were things the people kept undisclosed until they were able to have face to face verbal communication.
In today’s culture we see that written communication is becoming very prevalent with texting, twitter, and facebook. I would like to hit some practical conversations that should NOT be done over via text, but should be done verbally, preferably if possible face to face.
- Any dispute or argument
- Ending a relationship or breaking up
- DTR’s -determining the relationship talks
- Cancellation of any sort
- Business (anything to do with money)
The main reason to conduct these types conversations via text message or in writing is an unwillingness to be confrontational. Ladies, just a hint to you; if a guy is not MAN enough to call you, or set up a time for y’all to meet to discuss where you are in a relationship, or to end it, then he isn’t worth your time.
Ladies, be very careful that you do not use texting as a crutch to avoid confrontation with another person.
In your marriage you should be careful with what you text your spouse. Do not dishonor them by sending them a text message that is coming from an argument or dispute. Save that for when you can talk it out face to face and behind closed doors.
Words are very important to God and how we use them matter to Him. We need to ask Him for wisdom in every situation to make sure we are honoring Him and also honoring those who are in our lives for a reason. We do not want to give the enemy any opportunity to come in between us and the people we need in our lives.
BMWK, what other conversations should not take place via text message?