BMWK: I love it! Myself included. Is there anything else that you guys want to share? Any news? Do you guys have a wedding date
Keri: We do have a date: May 9th.
BMWK: Alright. Anything else you want to share with the BMWK family on love or second chances?
Taye: I guess it’s the big thing I was telling Lamar. You just heard her going through her grievance with the passing of her daughter. And with our past divorces, I think we both came out of situations where we did it wrong. We actually can both say – putting that dirt out there – we both came in feet first and we didn’t do it by the owner’s manual.
You know how like a lot of people buy a brand new television? Most people just open the box, put the batteries in the remote and cut it on and go to town. It’s rare that you go back and read the owner’s manual as to how to respectively use your television. So, when it comes times to troubleshoot, that’s when we actually pull out the manual. Well, sometimes, that’s a little too late and I think we both did that. I think with our situation now, we actually went by the owner’s manual, and I’m referring to the Bible. I didn’t just start dating her. We entered into a courtship. We started premarital classes while we were dating. The minister of the church told us that we were one of the highest rated couples on our individual assessments and I knew it! I knew it from my own 221 questions that I gave her, but it’s just good to get that affirmation.
I think the biggest thing that we will want people to know is sometimes you need to hit the reset button and do it the correct way. A lot of people believe that they’ve fallen into the culture. The culture is telling us that, hey, if you like somebody, sleep with him or her. If you like somebody and y’all are sleeping together, let’s move in. I’ll keep it real for men: Men, we’re getting it easy and that’s a big problem. That’s why a lot of men are not looking to commit because they feel like commitment would kill all the easy leeway they have.
You’ve got some guys who can tell a girl straight up, ‘Hey, I’m not ready to settle down yet, but I’m looking for somebody to kick it with’, and she’ll be like, ‘OK’. And that’s something men have been trying to negotiate for years! Women used to be like ‘you have to commit to me in order to get these benefits’. But now, we’ve been allowed to get these benefits without the commitment and it’s causing a sickness in our culture where a lot of people are not looking to commit. They’re just looking to just have ‘situationships’ rather than relationships. We want to show people that we went back to the owner’s manual and we did it the right way. It works, contrary to popular belief.
Sometimes, you gotta have faith. I think the biggest reason people are going into the situation route is there is no more trust.
Everybody is trying to avoid being hurt. I mean, I’ll admit – I was totally transparent with Keri. After coming out of the marriage I came out of, I was worried. Right now we’re going through the Black and Married with Kids Academy and we just did the Unpack Your Bag. One of the examples she gave, was me! I was like ‘man, somebody got over on me the first time’ so I was suspicious of anybody else getting over on me, but sometimes you gotta pray about it. If God led you to this person, and you truly believe God led you to this person, you can let down your guard. I feel like the reward was great!
Watch the VIDEO of Taye proposing to Keri here.
BMWK: Exactly. That’s powerful! Well, I’ve been married nine years and you guys have inspired me. So keep doing what you’re doing.
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