We are told as believers to be patient, and WAIT on God regarding the coming of our spouses, but waiting is literally one of the most challenging things to do in our day and time.
I didn’t date much during my high school and college years, simply because I saw it as a time for me to develop my relationship with God. Also, because my pastor made it very clear to me, that I wasn’t ready to lead a woman until I first proved I could lead myself.
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But, even during those early years of my life, I had such a genuine desire to meet, know, and love my future wife. This is the story of many because God created us with the desire to come into covenant with one person that we will spend the rest of our life with. Upon recognizing the desire to marry, find someone and falling in love is not immediate, but the season of waiting is.
Waiting on your spouse is inevitable, but many do not embrace the art of praying for their future spouse during that time. The bible states very sternly in Philippians 4:6, “To be anxious for NOTHING, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” This is one of the most key verses for those in the season of waiting.
The moment you feel yourself becoming anxious you should automatically get on your face before God and pray!
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During my single years, each night during my quiet time with God I would always end with a few short prayers covering my wife (whom I hadn’t met yet). I didn’t make requests about what I wanted her to be, but I prayed over her knowing that she was already somewhere fully created. I would pray protective prayers over her, and ask that God would continue to push her into purpose knowing that would cause us to meet one day.
I made sure not to allow that to be the majority of my prayer time because during singleness your main priority should be the development of yourself, and your relationship with God. Praying for your spouse gives God full control, and will encourage you during your season of waiting with patience.
I thank God that He encouraged me to do this, because it was the very prayers that I prayed over my future wife that helped me recognize that Natasha was the one I had been praying for all those years.
So I encourage you, as you are in the season of waiting to pray over your future spouse and watch God work!
Psalm 33:20-22 “Our soul waits for the Lord; he is our help and our shield. For our heart is glad in him, because we trust in his holy name. Let your steadfast love, O Lord, be upon us, even as we hope in you.”
BMWK, Would you ever pray for your future spouse?
Young man you have quite a way with words! The entire time that I read this piece I nodded along with what I recognize as truth. I absolutely embrace this and actually practice it too. Waiting is hard, but I’ve learned over the years to be busy (for the Lord) and not mope around. As confirmation, one of my devotions today was about not being anxious. Many blessings to you and your family!
Thanks so much Mr. Miller for writing this article. I have been praying for my future mate lately and I do believe that God hears my prayers, but Im being patient during my waiting season, yet, Im also allowing God to work on me during this season. Glory be to God! Please keep up the wonderful work in which you were called to do. May the Lord continue to bless you!!! ?