Marriage is a precious gift that couples sometimes take for granted. Did you know God wants your marriage to be healthy and wants you to prosper as a couple? This is difficult to do when we get in the way of our own happiness. In fact, we block our marriage blessings without even realizing it. We should be suitable helpers to our spouse and be reminded of what God says in Genesis 2:24 “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”
5 Ways You May Be Blocking Your Marriage Blessings Without Realizing It
In this article:
- Being stubborn
- Unwilling to forgive
- Not taking ownership
- By not being completely honest
- Not giving 100%
The one flesh concept sometimes gets lost in most marriages. We complain and look for what’s not working, which prevents our marriages from blossoming. It’s so easy to become complacent and do just enough to get by. The reality is, that isn’t enough. If we desire the best out of our marriage, we have to give it our personal best.
It will require effort and knowing the areas needing the most attention. Providing our marriage with an opportunity at joy and longevity will require that we remove our selfishness and eliminate other behaviors that are damaging to our relationship. Marriage success won’t arrive by chance. You’ll have to take some very specific actions while avoiding those that don’t serve your union.
Here are 5 ways you may be blocking your marriage blessings and not even realize it.
By being stubborn
Thinking it’s your way or no way simply doesn’t work in a partnership. There are two of you for a reason. We must be willing to listen and be open to suggestion and correction if we want a union that reflects love and commitment.
Not being willing to forgive
Not being willing to forgive will also block your marriage blessings. Releasing the bitterness by discussing what’s bothering you, not holding on to it, and creating solutions will assist you in forgiveness. We have to remember what love actually is and what it’s intended to do for us. It is clearly stated in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude and does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; love does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
By not taking ownership
We aren’t perfect. The sooner we acknowledge that, the better. We make mistakes that need correcting all the time. Somehow we find it easier to pinpoint those of our spouse than to own our own. We have to look in the mirror and face the good, the bad and the ugly of who we are, and make corrections.
Not being completely honest
Not being completely honest about needing God for your marriage will cause you to struggle unnecessarily. Remember your vows and the promises you made before God, regarding your marriage? When you hit rough patches in your relationship, trust God to see you through.
By not giving 100%
By not giving 100% you cheat yourself and your marriage. You deserve the best that life has to offer and so does your spouse. Make sacrifices and be all in, in your marriage. One hundred percent from both partners is the secret to love and happiness. You block your blessing when you half do it. How can your relationship be blessed with more when you haven’t already been a good steward of what you have?
Love can be challenging, but also amazing if we step out of the way and allow our marriage blessings to flow.
BMWK, have you been blocking your marriage blessings?
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Editor’s Note – This post was originally published on May 14, 2015 and has been updated for quality and relevancy.
Thanks for the great advice!
Thank you for reading Tisha!
This is my second marriage and we have only been married for 60 days but we have been together for 5 years and I am already ready to be back single because he is always pointing out my flaws and telling me how selfish I am and how I don’t appreciate him but I am tired of it. I’m ready to give up. But he doesn’t want to admit when he wrong, and he feels like he can do no wrong and everythinghe does is excusable
Great article!
Thanks for reading!
I am saddened to hear you aren’t feeling loved. Does your husband know, not only your concerns, but the severity of your concerns and why you feel the way you do?
Hello,All of the answers are in his actions! You never hurt what you really truly loves on purpose! Try asking GOD to reveal to you what’s really going on and accept the answer once you receive it! Trust GOD!
Perhaps you can review this article with him and some progress can be made. I just made a copy and will review with my fiancée this evening.
I’ve taken Sacrifices in a man that I really cared for a lot. We’ve known each other for almost 4 years now and I have sacrificed my time my dedication my love a whole lot for him and yet we are not a couple and we don’t even talk as much as we used to. He pushed me away from him and yet he still tries to talk to me. He says little sweet things here and there. Almost as if he’s confused as if he doesn’t know what he wants. I don’t want to sound like I am so perfect of a woman but I am guessing that he realized what he had and because he pushed me away maybe he’s just confused because of that reason but again I am Not sure. But I really had feelings for him very strong feelings and I really did love him and cared about him so much. And in a way I still do. But I don’t want to be the fool if he asked me out again so I’m not sure what to do. He is a minister and I am an evangelist and I feel as though we make the perfect team but then again he pushed me away and then yet he still talks with me and saying little sweet things here and there and that’s the part that confuses me.
Hello,Why are you so confused? When someone shows you who they are believe them and stop trying to analize and justify what’s really happening. If someone really truly wants you in their life. They would move heaven and earth to make you a special part of it! Try asking God to reveal to you what’s really going on? Just maybe the rejection is just GOD’S way of protecting you from something that isen’t good for you? Trust GOD!
My Sis, you would not believe how many women I’ve spoken to over the years who have done this “sacrificing” that you have done and after many years were left with nothing else but wasted years. Today choose to stop. Today choose to no longer allow any man to sting you along: push you away, pull you back in with kind words, ask yourself, did Christ die and paid ‘so high a price’ for your life so that someone could treat you this way? Cut it, and never again allow a ship that’s going no where to black your harbor. Today choose to no longer see him as your destiny partner, because he doesn’t see you in the same light for if he did he would have acted on it a long time ago, and know this for sure, when a man is serious about a woman he will move heaven and earth, and not stop until you are his. Today, choose to end this non-relationship, ask him to lose your number and you loose his…and it’s ok, because he’s still your Brother-in-Christ…Today, allow yourself to heal. And lastly, today, decide to do it differently the next go around: if there is someone you like, before your emotions get this entangled, sincerely ask your Heavenly Father, if this is the one He has chosen for you from the foundation of the world, He will answer you because you are His child, not His “strange child;” if He says yes, then know this one will love you with the love of Christ, if He says no, you have gained a friend and a brother. Oftentimes we enter into these situations without involving Him at the beginning, not realizing that because He has paid “so high a price” for us, He wants to be involved, and to spear us from the broken hearts…but thanks be to God, He is able to heal all our broken hearts…
Oh, and I forgot to add: dating is the foundation that you will build your marriage on, now ask yourself if what you have now is a string enough foundation to build the beautiful house of your marriage on…
Sorry, I’m very passionate about this stuff, because I’ve seen the devistation of it all too often…
Great advice!! I’ve been married. 18yrs. But somehow me and my household doesn’t get along with my mother in law. Is this a major distraction in our marriage? Cause in my heart and mind has two different views. And I want to let go,but its his mom she play apart but its if not scene its not there.
Thank you for the advice! I have been married for a year and now I’m trying to change for the better. I am woman enough to admit that I haven’t been giving it my all. But, I have realized that I am blocking my blessing and dishonoring God in the process. Thanks! Signed a Young Black Married Woman
Thanks for the great article. I have been married 26 years. I do think we sometimes block our marriage blessing by not willing to forgive our spouses. This is what I have struggle for the last two years with. Forgiveness. When a spouse cheats. How do you forgive.
On the cheating. I was really hurt in my marriage. Believe it or not we are trying to get back together. We have talked about it so many times. I believe that things are very different this time. I am different and he is too. We just wanted to be happy and raise our daughter together. Work in progress
Awesome article…
An inspiring article