From the way most of us were raised, to the TV we watch, and the music we listen to, we are taught that the man better bring home the bacon. And if he doesn’t, someone else will. Sorry fellas, the truth of the matter is that in today’s economy and with most of the labor jobs in America disappearing (which mostly men work) it’s possible that you will meet a woman that makes more than you. You should understand that this is nothing to be ashamed of because most “real” women are not looking for you to be their sugar daddy.
A woman just wants you to put in as much work as she does.
She wants to see that you budget your money wisely, so if you do get married she knows you won’t put the family into horrible debt. She wants to know that you will never stop trying to be the best man that you can be, and that you wont settle or give up on improving yourself and your family. If you show her these things and she’s the right one for you, then she will understand your struggle.
Now let me add one last piece before I end this. I am in no way saying that women are obligated to struggle with a man! And fellas, I’m not saying that you should just expect her too do so. All I’m saying is that actions always speak louder than words and sometimes if you show her you are a great man, that’s up to great things, then she will feel comfortable building greatness with you. Hard times come and go, but you shouldn’t let those hard times control your life. Show her you are worth it! Make her believe in you, just as much as you believe in yourself. It’s not about who makes more, its not a competition. It’s about how you two compliment each other so that you two can become a great team.
BMWK – do you think men are afraid of women who make more? If so, why?
Born and raised in Washington DC, Adam Butler is the host and producer of Mindstream Radio, an online radio show that focuses on ending the disconnect in the African American community. He is also the director and producer of the documentary film “I’m single because: The civil war between Black Men and Women” and co-founder of www.endthedisconnect.com. You can follow Adam by logging on to www.endthedisconnect.com
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I know my role – I am responsiple for the house and I carry my wieght financially. I pay all the bills and make sure he eats – what he wants to eat. We met 8 years ago – we have been married 5. He worked up until 2 years ago when his role was down sized – he looked for a new job for about a month. Then it stopped and so did ‘we’. His desperation turned into him becaming gullible – got involved in a internet “Get paid to Shop” scam and lost $1500. Then he signed up for a $60/month vacation sales multi level marketing scam. I covered it all – because I could cover it and God kept me grounded – even though my opinion on the front end was “this doesn’t seem legitimate”.
When I talk to him about going into business together – he seems enthusiastic – but wont do any of the leg work – find out how much things cost. I have a day job – that pays our bills. He is capable of doing the research but isnt doing it. My fear is he will say yes – I will do all the research, pay all the capital investment and he will want to share in the profit – where is the “we” and how long do I carry the marraige – It was ok on the front end to be the bread winner – but when did it become ok to do nothing. Yes I am frustrated in nmore ways than one. So is the price for a marraige this unhappiness?
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