I was a single mother for 11 years, with 2 young sons, before I got married. They were 11 and 6 years at the time. I didnt plan for my life to turn out that way but it did. My life as a single mother was not terrible. Harder, yes. but not terrible. I had a good job, new car, owned my own home, etc. I worked hard and I played hard. Things had not worked out with my son’s father, so I had to raise them on my own.
Although I took everything in stride I still felt like my sons should have a man around. However, I was not willing to compromise myself and my needs and just go be with anyone. I had to be with a man that would make me happy and he also had to be compatible with my boys. I knew that my husband was that man. It was a no brainer when it came to marrying him. One thing that I didn’t realize was, that there would be a transition in going from single mother to wife and mother, and that it really wasn’t that easy. I married a man that comes from a family that does not believe in divorce and who was raised by a stay at home mom. Our outlook on things were very different! I was used to taking care of things on my own and by myself. I had to get used to him doing things for me and had to learn to let him take care of me. Here are 3 things that I learned while I was making my transition:
Lovely Sharice says
Awesome article. It is a true blessing to be able to give kids that balance of having both a mother and father in the house!