Most of us want our homes to be a place of refuge, a place of tranquil peace, rambunctious excitement, and romantic moments. We want a home, not just a house. We want a place where our mate is well taken care of and comfortable. If you’re husband, you want to treat your wife like a queen. If you’re a wife, you want to treat your husband like a king.
How to Treat Your Husband Like a King
In this article:
This article focuses on taking care of our husbands like a king. Don’t worry; this is a two-way reciprocal view. So, look out for the article on how to treat HER like a QUEEN because the castle of every married couple, needs a King and a Queen. This in no way means that one position is subservient to the other, but rather that both husband and wife have an honorable position that is full of value and worthy of respect.
Study Him
Right from the start let me make it clear; this is a research project that you must undertake. I cannot tell you what specifically causes your mate to feel respected, well cared for, and honored above the rest of the men in your life – to feel like a King. This is where the research comes in. Research and observe what makes his heart sing. Discover and make note of the little as well as the big things that cause him to know and feel that he is number one; the king of the castle.
Make Him a Priority
Place him before your children, boss, pastor/church, parents and friends. Attending to the needs of others is necessary, but should not take away from your marriage.With all things being balanced, the marriage covenant trumps all other relationships.
Invest in Him
Remind yourself this is the man with whom you chose to spend the rest of your life. He is the product of your wonderful independent choice. See the things you do for him as an investment in your beautiful future together.
Never stop learning your man. He is the same person he was when you married, yet over the days, months, years, he has continued to grow and evolve. Grow and evolve with him. Allow what matters to him, to mean something to you.
How do you treat him like a King in his castle? Observe, study, converse, connect, listen, and connect again. Then execute what you have discovered. If you were taking a $2000 college course, wouldn’t you do your best to study, complete the coursework, and pass the class? So why not invest this and more in your marriage? Your marriage is a part of your life’s work.
Your husband is a non-ending ever evolving specimen that you can continue to learn from every day. Learning him will better your marriage, encourage him, and equip you.
Do Your Research
Just as you are the queen, treat and respect him as the king. Here are three basic questions to get you started in your discovery process. Find out things such as:
- What does respect mean to your mate?
- After a long day at work, what does he prefer?
- What does being sexually satisfied mean to him?
Remember this is your research project. Queen, I speak to you and I say enjoy the research. Have fun getting to know your mate day by day and year by year. Remember the two of you are on the same team, striving for the same victory. It takes a strong, bold, confident, and courageous woman to do this work and you have within you what it takes.
Your man has so many facets to him. There is no time to waste or get bored.
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Editor’s Note: BMWK originally published this post on May 19, 2014. We have updated it for quality and relevancy.
This is money in the bank Deborah. Respect for a man is just important as love is to a woman. It is the center of our core. Nice blog. I’m sharing it on our Pressure Points marriage ministry. Well done.
Phil thanks for sharing my writing. Treat her like a queen is coming soon.
Excellent Points! Thank you!
I like this article, these questions are good because these 3 topics I find my husband takes value in so I’m gonna do my homework for my king!
I love this article, but the only way I will treat my husband as a king if he is a man of God, treats me as his queen, never committed adultery, and if he is a great hands on father to our kids/ equal partner in the household duties.
Hyacinth, I understand what your saying but just still you/we must treat each other as King/Queen with a special balance btwn the children and spouses. If you begin to feel neglected that causes problems and you could lose your King/Queen if you don’t pay attention. The article is great and I can’t wait to read “How to treat your wife like a Queen”, should be a great read and quite insightful.
Thanks Melvin. When we continue to spend time learning each other it keeps us on our toes and our marriages fresh. Treating her like a queen is coming soon.
What if you lost respect for your husband. and find yourself resenting him for things he’s done they were never resolved?
Thanks for sharing, we do need to learn them.
Thanks Jackie. It’s been almost 27 years and I can say you just never stop learning.
I read the other article and just as I had expected, there is an imbalance. Why do women feel the need to do way more to keep their marriages together? Many of the things the author mentioned are needed by wives as well. Wives need respect too!
Treating your wife like a queen, your husband like a king or the kids like the little princes and princesses that they are is relative to every household. The articles are meant to get you studying your spouse a little more and then doing what it takes to please each other. What you do to please each other needs to be agreed upon within the context of your own marriage. It’s exciting to see so many of you taking the articles and making them uniquely your own.
@ Anonymous – I agree with you and you took the words right out of my mouth when I read the article! I also waited on the other article like you on “How to treat your wife like a queen” and it was a disappointment and gave no in-depth substance like the “How to treat your husband like a king”. She told us to study our men, make a home for him, uplift him, etc…. but the “Treat your wife like a queen” she gave 4 or 5 small points and didn’t elaborate like she did with the first. It’s so sad that it is 2014 and we as women are still doing 99% and the man is doing 1%. Also, you notice how so many women were in her “amen corner” with the “How to treat your man like a king” and this article didn’t even get 5% of the response from “Men”…. There is such a imbalance between men and women in the way that we’re raised and so many women are hurting in marriages because of it. Also this is the reason that over 80% of women initiate divorces because women are expected to do it all and times have changed and women expect more out of men and we are not settling for less like our mothers and grandmothers did.
Mrs. Jones, I’m sorry you found the article disappointing. I am a true believer that a marriage takes two people working together to build a home. We each have to do our part as husband or wife and what that part is, is decided by the individual family. Hopefully the articles will spark discussion like this within the family unit and will bring about a greater since of working together. Thanks for your comment.
Yes, I agree. This article is on point! Can’t wait to read the other part.
Because people are so set in love being the old way you are right women are forced to exit marriages. A marriage was never meant to be difficult only people who are not aware what unconditional love really means make it that. Anything outside of that has motives and unrealistic. To be told you cannot love or live hostile-free is ridiculous. Some people on earth address all problems positive. Some pressures are not the end of things, negative views are ALWAYS met with negative results. Its like saying if you think I am the worst mother for raising my children a certain way than i am to you. But if you have never been directly involved then you will not understand all the reasoning behind how and why i child-rear certain things strict and other things more relaxed. If a person is used to addressing things in such manner then they need assistance with approaching issues differently. I have been through a lot and after seeing other in my own situations somethings just don’t do it for me. At times I think being patient for love is non-existent it’s like playing catch up. Not all people understand get or accept how love should be. And as stated before a man and women deserve love the exact same way: equal respect that’s most important and equal love. If no respect is shown we will never get to love. It’s just as loving a boy-child as a girl. But not treating him as a girl. When boys are not allowed to show emotions we run into issues at older ages. (As for when children are matured into adulthood before time. This causes major communication breakdown. And we wonder why young children are acting out as adults would.) They began to think and use women as objects and not valuable creatures that we are. A males virginity is just as precious as a females when differences are made like this we have wrong teachings being displayed and many indifference. Where men can get away with whoring tendencies and women the exact opposite is a disgrace and looked as invaluable. Woman are just as valuable as men and in life we all can become more successful in the area if we all practice this not just in marriage but with everyday strangers. Women do not lead men “In marriage” and this all comes with respect. This gets confusing to most because in one sentence its this and the next its perceived as I’m allowed to be used as a doormat. Black women are string willed but submission is important aspect of successful black marriages. Most times old habits have to be broken in order for the relationship to thrive. Black women still need work on treating each other’s as sister’s and stop snobbing each other because someone has something that you think they shouldn’t have or are dressed in a way you would not dress. Yes appearance is everything but what happened to the teachings of elder women towards the younger women. Sad to say the roles are reversed. To some this may be off topic but it has every cause and effect to why black love is so tainted. Our black churches, marriages, and common practices of friendships and relationships need rescued too.
Ariel Holmes, Thank you for your breakdown.. I found it to be spot on…
This is a very weak and vague article because the body didn’t match the subject. The subject made it seem like you were going to be a lot more concise to what needs to be done to make him fill like a king. When reading this article, you seem like you didn’t want to offend your women readers vs. instructing them how to be a good help meet to him that makes him feel like a king because of the many queen references. The article gives the impression that a man and a woman is equal but they are not. The bible talks about the man being the leader and her the help meet which is not equal. Now, he is not to treat her like a door mat either. Yes, we both have our roles in the marriage that is defined by God which both are important and according to each others strengths and weaknesses. In my opinion, you missed a bunch of necessary questions to find out like how to talk to him, how she can build him up, basic things she needs to do to make him feel like a king, and etc.. I am sure when I go to the woman’s version of this article, it will be a lot more detailed in what he needs to find out from her. I enjoyed reading the material anyways.
I was interested in both of the articles. I felt like how to treat your husband like a king should have been in more details. I was looking for more high lights on how to take action in making my King happy. Overall it gave me insight.
when i first read t shirt i thought it said. my husband IS a dope haha