Over my four-year marriage, I’ve noticed that year four was better than year three, that year three (while challenging) brought more insight than year two, and year two was more comfortable than year one. Each year, it seems, has brought us closer together, whether we realized it at the time or not.
I feel this growth in our marriage is directly related to our growth as individuals. When I got married, I was a fresh-faced 22-year-old who knew a little about love, and even less about marriage. I’ve learned so much about my role as a wife, particularly in the area of what my husband needs from me.
I’ve been having a slew of good days recently (if I do say so myself), and just like I take every opportunity to learn something about myself, I had to analyze why I’ve felt so on the ball lately.
I’m a better wife when…
…I remember that arguments are temporary bumps in the road, and the longer I hold a grudge, the more difficult I make it for us to get back on track.
…I relax.
…I focus on the lessons learned in the past, but don’t dwell on our mistakes.
…I get a good night’s sleep (don’t judge me…you know how it is).
…I ask for and receive help from my husband in a manner that makes us both feel like we’re part of the same team.
…I feel appreciated.
…I remember to let go and let God handle it.
…I pray for my husband regularly.
And as much as I try to make sure I am the best wife I can be every single day, I admit that every day ain’t all roses. But my take on that is: everyone is entitled to have a bad day every once in a while. I just try to make sure my “bad days” aren’t “intolerable days.” LOL.
BMWK family, fill in the blank. “I’m a better spouse when _________.”
Tara Pringle Jefferson is a freelance writer, blogger and PR professional living in Ohio with her husband and two kids. She’s also Managing Editor of BlackAndMarriedWithKids.com. Follow her on Twitter or check out her blog for her insights on what it means to be a mom, wife, student, writer, and about three other labels she’s too tired to remember.
Im a better spouse when I’m calm, cool and collected.
ur right, i look toward my husband for conformation..if hes stressed, i instantly thk oh, we’re in trouble now..being cool and collected important…
I’m a better wife when I feel like if I don’t have it all together Hubby does! That sense of team is like nothing else.
I’m a better wife,When i stop,and think of the dumb things i say or do,and correct them…
I’m a better wife when I take care of myself! That means physically, emotionally and spiritually. When I do that everything else starts to fall into place.
I’m a better wife when I take care of myself! That means physically, emotionally and spiritually. When I do that everything else starts to fall into place.
I’m a better wife..when i let him be the man tht god intended..I grow-up in a single parent home where my mother was boss and all my friends had the same…so going into marriage was enlightening and difficult..Being superwomen is what i became and our marriage quickly soured( he wanted to feel needed)..howevr after learning what works and doesnt..i burned my cape and now we live in harmony…:)..now i ask for help, and he helps cuz he knws..when mama happy evybodys happy…;)
I’m a better wife..when i let him be the man tht god intended..I grow-up in a single parent home where my mother was boss and all my friends had the same…so going into marriage was enlightening and difficult..Being superwomen is what i became and our marriage quickly soured( he wanted to feel needed)..howevr after learning what works and doesnt..i burned my cape and now we live in harmony…:)..now i ask for help, and he helps cuz he knws..when mama happy evybodys happy…;)
Honestly, I am a super wife (lol) when I get intimacy and sex on the regular….LOL I am a better mom too..LOL But seriously, I love feeling that connection with my husband, a sense of oneness is totally awesome for me…
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