Is being faithful in marriage difficult? It appears to be that way, unfortunately, for quite a few couples. The number of relationships that experience infidelity continues to grow. The amount of individuals who purposely seek affairs with married people also seems to be on the rise. The “side chick” is more common than ever, and in some cases, seems to be a badge of honor for some.
Marriages today need safeguarding. But we can’t expect outsiders to honor, respect and protect it. The couples within each particular partnership are responsible for that. In order to prevent the overall respect for marriage from dwindling, there are behaviors married couples must first demonstrate. Faithfulness is obtainable to all couples who desire it and are willing to contend for it.
Here are 5 suggestions on maintaining the faithfulness in your marriage:
Memorize the following scriptures on marriage and pray daily over your union. “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” Hebrews 13:4.
“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” 1 Corinthians 6:18.
“However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33
“I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13
Eliminate the moments and situations tempting you most. Keeping your distance from people you find yourself attracted to is always the wisest choice you can make for your marriage. Being married doesn’t mean you’re blind. Of course you’ll still notice other attractive individuals, but not acting on it is one surefire way to maintain your faithfulness.
Counting the cost is another method not many individuals consider when they give in to temptation. Prior to making a decision that will have long term ramifications, one must recognize the consequences of every action. Destroying your home, breaking the hearts of your spouse and children are just a few. One night of pleasure is never worth the lifetime of pain that usually follows.
Communicate clearly about each other’s needs. Being honest about how much intimacy is needed, support and even home cooked meals is essential. Exploring your fantasies with your spouse also needs to happen. A spouse who is completely satisfied at home is less likely to stray in most cases. Share your fantasies and desires and then listen attentively to those of your spouse, and make accommodations.
Escape the everyday, frequently. It doesn’t necessarily have to be an elaborate week-long vacation. A spontaneous weekend or overnight stay should do the trick. It’s essential to make time for just the two of you, as often as possible. Your marriage is crucial to the success of your family, and it should be treated as such.
In the majority of marriages, unfaithfulness can be prevented. Being accountable for yourself, monitoring your own behavior and making changes when necessary, moves you a lot closer to the goal of faithfulness. Faithfulness is achievable when we are clear on the needs of our spouse, as well as our own.