What do viewers possibly misunderstand or not get to understand about Tamar and Vince?
AD: The biggest misconception is that people think that they just do not love each other. We’ve seen some really mean things written saying that Tamar is a gold digger. She’s not a gold digger, their marriage is not for financial means or any of that. These two people love each other.They love each other through the roof. They truly want to overcome the obstacles that every couple is faced with. They want to win this whole marriage thing. I really want to put it out there because you only get to see a little bit on TV. But being their friends, we know the magnitude of the love that they have for one another. I can really mirror it to the love that my husband and I have for one another. Divorce is not an option. Winning is the only option. So that’s something that I truly want people to understand. And although they’ve been married for four years, they’ve been together for nine years so there’s a long history there.
How old are your sons and how do you keep them grounded with parents that are so high profile?
AD: We have three sons and they are sixteen, fifteen & seven. We just try to be as good of an example as individuals for them to follow. God is first. Our spiritual background gives us a foundation to operate in a way that gives responsibility. Although we’re not perfect, we let them know that’s something that you can’t compromise on. When no one is in the room, you need to be the same then as you are when everyone is in the room. It’s important to us that we raise them to be fine men. We teach them that nothing is out of reach for them.
They are all uniquely different. Our youngest is pursuing acting. He is our wildcard because he is fearless and will do anything. We always joke and ask ourselves how the last one is the one with the most energy. The fifteen-year-old is extremely talented. He follows his father’s footsteps musically. We don’t promote music because we want them to do their own thing. But that’s just something in him that you can’t deny. We definitely see him getting more involved in that. The oldest is just a wizard. He is incredibly intelligent. Academics is his thing. He’s in honors society for French in high school. He loves fashion but he loves to challenge himself academically. So they all have a very different dynamic and we are just so proud of all three of them. They are awesome and not just because they’re our kids. [Laughter]
LD: My boys are my boys. Some people try to decipher why most young boys don’t like to listen to their father or don’t think their father is cool. But everyone knows that I’m the coolest father in the world [laughter]! We give them the room and space to learn and so it’s fun to watch them. The biggest thing that I tell all of them is this: ‘You’re going to make mistakes; I just want the mistakes that you make to be calculated mistakes. I don’t want you to do a bunch of stupid, miscellaneous, or frivolous mistakes. I want you to do your best at whatever you’re doing. If you calculate it wrong, I just want to know that there was a thought process that went behind your mistake. And as long as we get that, it’s all good’.