What is intimate sex? People have different ideas about sex but intimate sex, in particular, requires more than the physical surrender. Intimate sex happens in long-term relationships and married couples. It results from and aims for a stronger bond between husband and wife.

How to Achieve More Intimate Sex in 3 Ways

In this article:

• An Introduction to Intimate Sex
• Intimate Sex Comes With Commitment
• Intimate Sex Comes With Faithfulness
• Intimate Sex Comes With Surrender

An Introduction to Intimate Sex

If you are married and have an intimate relationship with your partner, chances are, you have faced many challenges with your spouse. My man for the last 18 years was in his usual spot, leading us from the front lines. I couldn’t be more grateful. Naturally, I had his back. But, none of it would have mattered if we hadn’t first surrendered everything to God.

Now, I know what you’re thinking. This is an odd way to start an article about having more sex I suppose. But stick with me and hopefully, you won’t be disappointed. While the article’s title champions sex, it would be foolish to ignore the importance of intimacy. Simply put, you can’t have more sex without it, not the meaningful kind anyway. It’s not the kind where you just have to call your girls and tell them what your partner did to you last night and the night before.

You see, I’m not trying to advocate some rampant rump in the hay with little physical meaning and even less emotional value. If that’s what you’re after, click on a new tab and keep it moving. Rather, the “more” sex I’m talking about is all wrapped up in a lifetime commitment to your relationship, faithfulness to each other, and surrender to God. Without these, intimacy will be lacking, and sex will be just another three-letter word.

1. Intimate Sex Comes With Commitment

No marriage is perfect. But, there’s something to be said about two people who can look beyond each other’s imperfections and decide to take on life together. For my husband and I, we stood before a crowd of friends at the beginning of January, said “I do,” and then got busy for the first time in our relationship.

Regardless of where you start as a married couple, nothing beats the uninhibited pleasure of two committed bodies becoming one. No one else gets to have that with your spouse, so you are free to do what you want as often as you want. There’s nothing quite so liberating. If you want not just more, but more unfettered, more sensuous, and more ebullient sex, make, or remake, the kind of commitment that gets you what you desire.

2. Intimate Sex Comes With Faithfulness

I can already hear the naysayers from the point above. So, I’ll let you in on a gem. Commitment without faithfulness is futile. On the other hand, where commitment and faithfulness meet lies plenty of free-spirited lovemaking that’s sure to blow your mind. This is because faithfulness and commitment lead to the development and strengthening of every kind of intimacy.

• Recreational Intimacy – Great sex after a great date with your spouse is a great idea.
• Emotional Intimacy – Sex after moments of emotional bonding is an awesome release.
• Intellectual Intimacy – Sometimes, a stimulating conversation stimulates more than the mind.
• Spiritual Intimacy – Drawing close to God can definitely help you draw close to one another.
• Physical Intimacy – A touch here and a caress there is an excellent way to start lovemaking.

When you allow your relationship to reach this kind of next-level intimacy, then more sex is more than likely.

3. Intimate Sex Comes With Surrender

In our society, surrender is not exactly sexy. Typically, those who surrender are ridiculed as weak and powerless. But often times, life throws hardship after hardship at you and your relationship, and it seems like it just won’t quit. When you and your spouse take those challenges and together surrender them to God, you make sure your troubles don’t get rid of your physical intimacy in your long-term relationship. In fact, when you surrender to God, you will find it much easier to surrender your heart, mind, spirit, and body to your spouse. And that always leads to more, and better, sex.

 

Get some inspiration from Arthur and Reva who have been married for 68 years:

So, if you haven’t already done so, start today! Give your intimate sex life a boost with the kind of committed, faithful, surrendered sex you want. It’s one of the best ways to ensure you have an amazing marriage and sex life!

BMWK, are you now ready to have more intimate sex with your spouse? Share your thoughts in the comments section!

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Editor’s Note – This post was originally published on January 1, 2018, and has been updated for quality and relevancy.