For most couples, the highlight of their relationship is the intimacy. Looking forward to connecting to one another in this way, is definitely a benefit to your marriage. However, we all know that intimacy is the first to suffer when our relationship hits a barrier. I mean, who’s really interested in making love when they don’t even want to be in the same room with their partner?
Communication challenges, financial burdens or family related issues all affect the level and quality of the lovemaking we get to experience. Those areas must be intact, because sex in marriage is necessary.
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When the sex is on point (meaning extremely satisfying) and frequent, it will have positive benefits on every other area in your relationship. Your sex life, just like the areas listed above, also says a lot about your marriage, if you really paid attention.
A healthy love life sends the message there is still very much of an attraction.
The fact that each partner still desires the other speaks volumes about that couple. Be grateful if you’re the couple who can’t keep your hands off of each other and usually looks forward to making love.
After children and other physical alterations, it’s crucial that couples still desire intimacy with one another. If the attraction is missing for you, take a personal assessment to discover why you aren’t as attracted. Sometimes weight gain, weight loss or hair loss can cause individuals to lose that desire.
It’s important to be honest about what’s missing for you and encourage your partner in finding solutions to the challenge. Being a supporter and partner in a weight loss goal, for example, could be what your spouse needs most.
An active love life can also highlight how well you communicate with one another. Being satisfied in the bedroom requires an understanding of the other partner’s needs. We must be vocal when it comes to our turn ons as well as our turn offs.
Express it verbally and demonstrate it physically, so your partner is clear on your needs. We have to be willing to show our partner specifically where to touch, squeeze, nibble and kiss to get us hot and ready for lovemaking.
The lack of sexual intimacy can also send an important piece of information. Having no desire for your partner is a sign of a serious issue. Getting to the source of that problem has to become a top priority. Physical check ups can provide causes as well as solutions to the lack of desire for sex. Taking immediate action whenever we notice a problem is important. Just passively hoping it will improve isn’t a solution.
Intentionally withholding sex from your partner is another message indicating a lack of relationship maturity and the absence of effective communication. Punishing your partner for not doing the chores or because they disappointed you in some way is unproductive.
First, your partner might not connect the reason you aren’t having sex and the problem will continue to fester. Second, they might become use to not getting sex from you and seek it elsewhere. Communicate your frustration and ask for what you need so your love life isn’t affected.
Our ability to make love and connect physically is a gift to our marriage.
No, it isn’t everything, but it does affect everything. There are benefits that come from being intimate; the reduction of stress, more energy and ultimately developing a stronger bond with your spouse, which of course leads to a better marriage. Pay attention to what your sex life says about your marriage. Together, you and your partner can create a relationship that keeps the intimacy alive and well and frequent.
BMWK, what does your sex life say about your marriage?