It’s a New Year! And with a new year comes goals to be even better in life and in love than ever before. However, here’s one big, bold relationship truth: If you bring the same old mindset and misconceptions about relationships into this “new” season, then you won’t have different results.
So ladies, here are few myths about men (married and single) that you must stop believing in order to truly be happier this year in the love department. Let’s get it on!
Myth #1: Men Are Intimidated By Your Success and Independence
Okay I’m sure some ladies are already saying that they know men who are intimidated by their “success.” Well the first thing I will say is that most men aren’t intimidated by your success.
Mythbuster: The real truth is that men are looking for a partner in love and not a “boss.” The “right man” for you is not going to be afraid of you or intimidated by you; and he’ll appreciate all that you have to offer and look forward to partnering with you.
Myth #2: Having Standards and Expectations Will Drive Men Away
It’s true, some men become distant after women share their standards and expectations with them. Yes, it happens.
Mythbuster: It’s very possible that it wasn’t your standards briefing that turned him off, but your delivery. If stating your standards comes with a defensive nature and attitude, then yes, it can be a turn off. However, if it’s simply you just discussing your desires, then men who are on the same page as you (and that is the key) won’t run at the first mention of what you will and won’t tolerate. And those who aren’t will head for the hills…..and that’s a good thing.
Myth #3: There Are No Good Men Left out There
Please understand that in your lifetime you will have more relationships that fail than succeed. And my point is not to depress you, but rather for you to change your outlook. Don’t expect every man you meet to be your soulmate.
Mythbuster: There are plenty of good men out there. And plenty of men that are committing and getting married. So don’t let a string of bad dates or the opinions of your friends cause you to lose faith that your partner is out there somewhere.
Myth #4: Your Husband Is Only Driven By Sex
Yes, your man wants to be physical with you. But even more important than that, he wants to be intimate with you. If you keep believing that he is simply using you as a way to “get off,” your entire mindset about sex will be thrown off and your libido will decrease.
Mythbuster: Sex for men is an expression of love and it keeps us connected to you. And if you start thinking about it those terms, then perhaps you’ll want to connect with us even more!
Myth #5: Your Man Wants You to Be Perfect
Your man never committed to you because you were perfect. He did it because he accepted you, and even your flaws.
Mythbuster: Stop putting so much pressure on yourself to be perfect in every area and give yourself some grace. Your attitude will have a jump in the right direction when you do.
Myth #6: Men Are Emotionless
Just because your man doesn’t wear his emotions on his sleeves or verbally express his feelings often, doesn’t mean they don’t exist.
Mythbuster: Men have emotions just like women do, but it’s the expression of those feelings that might be different. This isn’t about good and bad, it’s just that he may handle and show his emotions differently.
Myth #7: Men Don’t Care About Your Needs
You will come up short every time if you make your man play the guessing game when it comes to your needs. Why? Because we aren’t good at it! Stop assuming that he is just supposed to know what your wants and needs are.
Myth-buster: You can’t keep getting frustrated with him over things that you’ve never expressed. Communicate early and often and don’t leave him guessing while you’re mad.
Time to Get Clarity
I know there are so many varying opinions and misconceptions out there about both men and women. And, I can talk in generalities all day. But from my personal experience and research, the best advice I can give you is to just do your best to have a dialogue! Talk to the man or men in your life and open up the lines of communication. That’s the easiest way to bring clarity, and with clarity come happiness.
BMWK – what other myths about men should we all leave behind as we go into the new year?