I love to see marriages endure the test of time as well as the test of Hollywood. I can only imagine how challenging it must be to work in the entertainment industry and maintain a seemingly healthy marriage at the same time. The added pressures of crazy work schedules and that extra attention that comes along with celebrity could be overwhelming for some. That’s why it’s good to see and hear about couples who are making love success happen.
With excitement centered around his 3rd time as host of the Grammy’s, LL recently spent some time on the Rickey Smiley morning show and provided some quick nuggets of information on marriage. Although it was brief, lighthearted and to the point, LL’s words of wisdom were honest and refreshing.
After reminding us he had been with his wife, Simone, since 1987 and married since 1995, he went on to share the following:
“Be friends, keep it simple, know what to overlook, and be quiet, eat my soup and let her talk.”
Although, he didn’t have the opportunity to really elaborate, those statements were actually quite insightful.
Being friends, should be the basis for any relationship. Friends share, trust and have a genuine like for one another, which is also a great beginning for a strong partnership.
Keeping it simple to me means being drama-free. Marriages don’t benefit from all that extra chaos. If something is bothering us, we should speak up about it and create a solution with our spouse. It shouldn’t linger on or become so out of control we can’t fix it.
Knowing what to overlook means we should pick our battles wisely. Everything doesn’t have to be a 911 emergency. Taking some time to calm down and assess the situation can completely change the outcome for the positive.
Being quiet, eating soup and letting her talk, while pretty funny, is actually very wise. Not just for the husband, but for both partners. Listening attentively can reduce so many misunderstandings. Most of our communication struggles surface as a result of our not being able to truly listen.
I’m loving that LL was even asked about marriage success in such a brief interview. It’s good to hear and know that people still care about what it takes to make a marriage work.
BMWK, what’s the secret to your marriage success?